Okay, so I have these two "friends" that I've known for a long time now. One of them has always been really jealous of me, dated every guy after I did, always tried to sabotage my relationships, etc. The other one was the same way, but slightly more sneaky about it and her thing was making everyone feel bad for her. So anyway, we were friends throughout high school and I always forgave them for everything they did and acted like nothing happened because I hate drama. But then Senior year, they made up a HUGE lie about me and everyone believed them. For about 3 months of my senior year, I had no friends. No one would talk to me, even teachers believed them. I was completely by myself. When I would walk in the room, they would make bitchy comments about me and everyone would laugh.
Then after we graduated I made the mistake of forgiving them and letting them too close, and they put sugar in my gas tank of my brand new car and ruined the motor. Since then they've done numerous other things to try and bring me down.
So fast forward to now. I am getting married in 5 months. My best friend (who WAS a mutual friend of theirs) is in my wedding as a bridesmaid. These girls think they are going to be as well... I have no idea where they got that idea, but thats what they think. I don't even want to invite them. But I really do not want any more drama, and I know that if they dont get an invitation they will raise hell again. I'm scared to lose all the friends I worked so hard to get back. But my mom (who is doing all of the invitations and basically in charge of everything guest-related) said she will NOT send them an invitation and is probably going to get security to keep them out. Honestly, I think if they come they will do something outrageous like knock over my cake or say something terrible about me. I guess I'm just on the fence about what to say to them when they find out theyre not invited. Or should I just invite them to save drama and risk them ruining my wedding?
Thanks so much for your help!
Not to be mean but why are you referring to these girls as friends? They have never been your friends and never will be. If their not your friends why would you invite them? They have only brought chaos and pain in your life. You should not even think twice about inviting them.This will be one of the best times of your life, don't let them ruin it. This is a new chapter of your life. Move on from the past.Hoped I helped.
Lillian
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Thanks! You are right, they are really not my "friends", its just that they often run in the same social circles as I do, so it's hard to see my real friends without seeing them as well. So when they figure out theyre not invited, they will more than likely start all kinds of drama between me and my actual friends. Thats all I'm worried about :)
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