Member Since: January 21, 2012
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Last Update: January 21, 2012
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Best friend is breaking my heart
I had a seven plus year gay relationship with my best friend in secret until recently as we have just broke up. What we had was 'friends w/benefits' which went exclusive. He is an extremely selfish person and gets tunnel vision with what he wants but he never used that side of him with me...yet. He didn't keep to the 'exclusive' bit and cheated, he then wanted to end the benefits with me and go be with a girl he was sleeping with. I wasn't too bothered about ending the benefits side but it was killing me just how much he had damaged our close relationship (as in the friends side of it) to get what he wanted. He said he really wants to be with her, but I know that that would be super arkward and painful for me at this point so I told him he would have to choose to either be with her knowing that it would be too much for me due to how they got together or to stop slowly destroying our friendship which spans 8 years of being really close best friends and try and rebuild the trust, respect, loyalty etc, which he broke. He has since choose to fix our friendship but he seems really distant, like he has no feelings of any kind towards me and doesn't seem eager to get back our friendship. It has devastated me watching as he stands by doing very little, when our friendship is hanging on by a thread and all he has to do is be himself, my best friend, not acting like we don't know each other. He thinks he can be with her and sort it with me at the same time but to me that's fair on me as due to his selfishness he will not sort us out he will just focus on her and that would make me feel really betrayed and things toward him, after he has sorted us out he can please himself. I love him and would never hurt him or see him hurting but he doesn't seem as though he cares about me or how bad I'm hurting or what's happening to our friendship, he just seems to care about the girl he wanted, when he could get whoever at a later date when we are sorted.
I just want my best friend back, I miss him so so much but he doesn't seem to care, I'm so depressed and can't stop the tears from flowing when I think of how close he was to how distant he acts with me now.
Please any advice for me or my friend would help thanks for listening. (link)
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That sounds auffel I may be a little younger than you but I know how it feals to have your back stabbed by a friend just talk to him tell him how you feal on the problem and listen to why he acts like that
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thanks a lot and it helps to know that i am not alone. :)
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