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Q: We had a professor who's in his 40's and is really knowledgeable, though an arrogant *** and sometimes vain.He used to make statements like how only the elite were qualified to pursue education and crap like that.We had all complained against his behavior to the Dean, as a result of which he won't be taking any of our classes anymore.During that movement, the leading guy suggested we register a false case of sexual harassment against him so we could get him removed quickly. We, not being in our senses, did that. As a result, he's to go through a lot.Though ultimately he was absolved of all charges and was re-instated.

But now I realize I'm in awe of him and his knowledge, and want to form a friendship with him. NOT AN AFFAIR OR ANYTHING. I just want to be a liked person. But how's it possible since he's not teaching us anymore and is probably disgusted with us for reporting him? I had once written an anonymous letter (e-mail) pouring out my guilt, I really felt bad for it by then...but all I received was a reply stating it was cowardly to withhold name while writing a letter.

So I was going to write another e-mail, (the same one with my name at the end) and send it to him, but then my mom said that he might use it to file cases against me and/or my friends in court. I wanna apologize badly, but cannot. Please give me advice on what to do.

(I'm from India)
Hi,
Making a complaint about this professors attitude and conduct was all well and good and I agree you should have done. Making false sexual allegations that could have cost this man his job and ruined his whole life however was a truly shocking and awful thing to have done. I understand that you are sorry and you need to take a valuable lesson from this. Thank god he has been reinstated and cleared of any wrong doing! As for if you should contact him again - do not! Nothing good will come of it. Just put it behind you and get on with your life and let him get on with his. You have emailed him to say sorry once. Move on now.
Ashok

Hello ashok, I really appreciate your reply. Yes I am truly sorry. But would it not be advisable to put a verbal apology as well?

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