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My best friend and I use to spend almost everyday together. We are both females & 26. I have a 1 year old daughter and my best friend is/was a significant part of her life as well. Her boyfriend just quit his job because he is moving 6 hours away. He's not positive when he's moving but possibly in 2 months. Now that he has quit his job they spend every night and day together. The only time I see her is if her BF has something else to do. This really hurts my feelings and I'm feeling taken advantage of. She came to my house last night,for the 1st time in 3weeks (her BF was at one of his friends house). She couldn't get here until 12:30am but we planned on watching one of our favorite shows and even though I had to get up at 6am w/ my baby I so badly wanted to spend time w/ my friend. Well we didn't even get to watch our show because a half hour after she got here her BF called and said he wanted to go get something to eat and so she left. I'm not the kind of girl that gets jealous of my best friends relationship w/ her bf. It just drives me nuts because I could never imagine treating a friend like that and then expecting that friend to be there for me 100% when my BF moves away. Its even more hurtful because I have a one year old daughter that she use to see everyday and now hasn't seen her in over a month. My friend always says "I feel so bad that I haven't seen you guys but he's moving so I want to spend as much time with him as possible". I feel like my friendship is being taken for granted. Am I being selfish or being taken advantage of? (link)
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I don't think its either, I think your friend is just scared that when her boyfriend moves their relationship won't last so she's being clingy. When something like this happens people tend to get a bit obsessed and I think that's whats happened with her. She know's that you two are such good friends that you'll be there for her after - its not taking advantage, its just a fact.
You could always try inviting her and the boyfriend round, that way, she's with him but you get her too.
I know its difficult because you miss her, but try and see where she's coming from.
And most importantly, don't hold a grudge against her because that will most definitely ruin your freindship.
hope it works out
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Rating: 5
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Thank you for your honest feedback. I really appreciate your advice. I have invited her BF to hang out too but it hasn't happened yet. I think my feelings will be hurt for a while but I'm hoping our friendship stays strong through this. I really just needed an outsiders opinion about this. Thank you for being so nice.
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