Well hello! I guess the first thing you should know about me is that im never going to judge you. Ive been through alot of hard stuff and there is nothing you can say that is going to surprise me. I want to be your friend, i want to be here for you and if you need additional help you can always talk to me on facebook.I have alot of expericence when it comes to giving advice. Im actually majoring in physcology. I love helping people and finding their best intentions. Ill give you the honest truth if you ask for my advice and i'll tell you straigh up what needs to be done. Most people lie because the truth hurts, but i believe ultimately that the truth will set you free. I know way to much about love because ive had my fair share of relationships and i know what its like to have someone break your heart but yet you still manage to love them with the pieces you have left. Im here to help you let go and move foward. And with everyone i help i will leave you with a quote to memorize and help you with your situation. I hope i help you :)
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Hi I am a female, 17.
My boyfriend is 19.
We both work I work days and his schedule is all over the place. He works usually 7 to 1 or 7 to 5 but somedays he'll work 7 to 7. I work 7 to five.
I don't have a phone it has been broken for nearly a month. I text him on my breaks from my friends phone since she works at my work too. He replies maybe half the time. I ask him usually when I will see him again. Well he usually says he's tired from work and sometimes he's already busy. Well whenever I can't get a hold of him and I know he is off work I just go to his house and surprise him. He never seems to mind and we usually end up falling asleep. Well whenever I want to do something big I ask him at least a week in advanced. I asked him to go camping with our friends and I and he said he had work so I didn't mind. He told me we'd plan another trip but when I asked him about it he said we weren't going to. And every year my friends and I go to California during Christmas break for 5 days and I invited him. My best friend is dating his best friend so I thought it would be fun for us four to go. I asked him and he said he couldn't get work off when it's several months away. Well I told him I am tired of us sitting around at his house and never doing anything and how I want to go out every now and then. He said he is socially uncomfortable. I told him not to keep making up excuses and how I just want us to do exciting things now and then. Of course he never replied so I told him to think about it and that I adored him. He always complains about me not having a phone to talk to him but when I do text him he never replies, and he never ever replies when I ask to hang out. I told him I wanted him to meet my family and he refuses, and I told him we're not going to have sex again until he at least meets my nieces and nephews since they are only here for the summer and I won't see them again until next summer. When I told him that he said he wasn't even going to kiss me, and now when I sleepover he won't kiss me or even touch me unless I get really upset and roll to the other end of the bed. I just don't get him lately. When we first got together he always wanted to do things and hang out and he seemed very interested. I see him maybe 2 times a week. We've been dating three months.
Is this because of his schedule or me being upset with him. How do I get him to become more interested in me. (link)
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Im going to be very blunt with you because it needs to be said and save you from the heartache. You guys have been dating almost 3 months...and you have already sex wtih him. Hes already gotten something with no work, he has nothing to work for or to look forward to because you already give him those physical pleasures. Its hard to keep a guy interested when you give in to the physical before the emotional. Dont say you cant do it because i have been dating my boyfriend almost 11 months on August 24th and we have not went past making out and hes a freshman in college. And im his first relationship tooken seriously because i dont give in. You got to take control of this relationship. Guys want what they cant have. You dont need to be waiting around for him to get off his lazy butt and put some effort in this relationship. If he doesnt give two cents about trying to spend quality time with you unless it involves you spending the night over. You need to re-evaluate your relationship. You need to move on, forget him.
Dont hold on, its the letting go that makes you stronger. Dont worry yourself with the could have beens, because if it would have been then it should have been :)
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You were right, that's all he wanted, I didn't have sex with him for a few weeks and I spent the night over at his house and we had sex again the next day he dumped me. But I am not going to waste my time on a guy like that any how, I was surprised at how little I cared for him leaving and I am going to take your advice and not give into sex so easy.
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