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I dont know what to do. Im only 14 and ive been in a relationship with this boy for a year, on and off now, and he's been talking about us having a child. Ive been really thinking about this and I really feel like Im ready for something like this. I know its not exactly a walk in the park bringing up a child and that it isnt something i can just forget about if i get fed up of the responsibilities. I do want to have a child with him now but honestly im not sure if I should. I saw what you said to some girls question and just thought youd be able to help. Please reply, Im not sure who else to ask.
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Don't. It's not just hard work emotionally but physically too, the younger you are the more difficult pregnancies are (a lot of teenagers end up in labour for days before the child is born). money is always an issue and it would be unfair on the child if you couldn't afford basic essentialls
(nappies, bottles, toys, clothes, cribs, push chairs, doctors bills etc.)
Then there's school, it is a very bad idea to miss school at your age, it has a huge effect on your later life and you will regret the decision.
The idea is attractive but chances are the guy your with now won't be around for 18 years and once the hard work kicks in, chances are he will leave anyway (men have that option easier than women). If I were you I'd wait a few years and maybe volunteer to be a child minder then you'll be able to get a mild taste of parenthood but you'll have to imagine doing it 24/7 (plus getting a job to keep income up). Best thing to do is wait until you're at least 18+
good luck
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THANK YOU! You helped save me from the WORST decision of my life! He was 18 and getting with 4 other girls I know of. He said he would only love ME forever but he was trying to get all of us pregnant at the same time. He got two girls pregnant so far that I heard of and one girl has TWO babies by him! This is the second guy I dated that wanted me to have his baby and the second guy who was busy with a whole bunch of other girls at the same time! LAST BLACK GUY I DATE EVER!
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