Gender: Female
Location: Essex
Age: 16
Member Since: July 29, 2011
Answers: 4
Last Update: September 9, 2011
Visitors: 795
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I dont know what to do. Im only 14 and ive been in a relationship with this boy for a year, on and off now, and he's been talking about us having a child. Ive been really thinking about this and I really feel like Im ready for something like this. I know its not exactly a walk in the park bringing up a child and that it isnt something i can just forget about if i get fed up of the responsibilities. I do want to have a child with him now but honestly im not sure if I should. I saw what you said to some girls question and just thought youd be able to help. Please reply, Im not sure who else to ask.
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I'm just going to be blunt about this; you are too young.
For a start, you're 14, still in full time education and have a whole life ahead of you. What's the rush to have a child now? Also, this boy you've been on and off with for, who's to say you aren't going to split again? I don't mean to be horrible, but I know this from personal experience. I'm 15, and me and my ex used to talk all the time about having kids, growing up together, getting married etc. and it hurts when things start to change. Being teenagers, things tend to change pretty quickly; my ex went from being the loveliest lad I'd ever been with to being a cold-hearted ... I won't finish that sentence. We did end up getting back together recently for a while, but we split up soon after, and now I'm 10 weeks pregnant. You never really know the reality of everything until you're in the situation yourself, and you have to make all these mature decisions. Good on you if you have supportive parents and he supports you, but at the end of the day, it's you who has to go through the pregnancy, and giving birth and all that.
Think logically about this before you do anything - can you support this child? Will you have time for them? What about your education? How do you think this will affect your future?
Just remember, honey, you have plenty of time for kids when you're older. Now's the time to have fun and enjoy yourself! xx
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THANK YOU! You helped save me from the WORST decision of my life! He was 18 and getting with 4 other girls I know of. He said he would only love ME forever but he was trying to get all of us pregnant at the same time. He got two girls pregnant so far that I heard of and one girl has TWO babies by him! This is the second guy I dated that wanted me to have his baby and the second guy who was busy with a whole bunch of other girls at the same time! LAST BLACK GUY I DATE EVER!
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