HI!! Im a 27 yr old single mom that actually loves to give advice. Im very honest and will be blunt, however I will not hurt anyones feelings. I believe people need to be told the truth about things in order to be successful in life, as suppose to the cliche "I will tell you what you want to hear". I actually had a strong desire to become a therapist to work with mentally ill and/or depressed patients, but never finished college due to my pregnancy. I recently broke my foot so I now have alot of time on my hands.
So if you need a honest answer or simply someone to talk to IM HERE!!!!!! XOXO
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I'm 14. I'm supposed to be having the time of my life at school, but my life is anything but fun. I've never had a best friend.. and I'm far from popular. I used to be friends with a gang of girls but when I got close with one of them all of them were really mean to me and started ignoring me. They're the popular ones now. So I kinda became friends with these other bunch of girls but they ditch me all the time and I can tell they don't really care. I just started a new year of school, and I've been nice to everyone I know. And the popular girls talk with me like friends but they just start planning on hanging out even when I'm around but don't invite me. And today I was standing with the only girls who talk with me and the popular girls just called all of them and invited them to go to a movie in front of me but left me out. Like, WTF?! What did I do to make them go out of the way to make me cry? 'Cause I cry everyday and I have NO FRIENDS. Should I just die? (link)
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The truth is school is tuff and it will be tougher if you let it. First I want to say Im very sorry what your going through. I went through something similar around your age and I just felt like nobody gave a shit about me, etc. To quickly answer your question:NO!!!!! You should not kill yourself here are some reasons and some tips to survive what your going through, So listen up:
1. Do you really want to give up on precious life cause of some catty girls? Yeah this is a tuff question cause I totally understand you want to fit in and of course who doesn't want some friends to hang out with. But if they are being bitches towards you, forget them. Don't let anyone make you feel less of a friend or like your not cool enough etc. You are you and by the sound of it you sound very cool and down to earth. Be yourself do what you like, activities, sports, dance etc. where you can meet people that have the same interest as you.
2. Do you really want to give those catty girls the power of YOU?
Ok, so they are popular well known around the school etc. BELIEVE ME sweetie it is not the end of the world. You are way to cool and precious to even be close to give someone else the power. How about you do your own event and/or outing? Friday night comes around ask some friends to catch a flick. None of those friends want to then be-friend someone in your class that you never noticed. You will be surprised how many kids in your school are not involved in the "popular circle" or whatever. If you notice the popular girls are scooping in to take YOUR friends away, confront them. My point is, don't EVER let anyone have the power and/or control of your life, cause it's true you should be having fun not thinking of killing yourself.
3. If the popular girls wanna hate you it has to be cause your just that fabolous. The number one reason why people do things as what your going through is cause they have low self esteem and are purely jealous.
4. Now to tackle the hardest part, your parents. This is hard cause they gave you life and now say mean things. Im a mom and I cant imagine saying those things to my son, however I do admit how frustrating parenting is. That is absolutely no reason to make you feel horrible. I strongly suggest you call your own family meeting between you and your parents and express how you have been feeling and how that comment they made to you has affected you.
I truly hope you gain the will that you need to tackle all this. You are very courages and I hope I have helped you at least little. Please don't kill yourself, take it one day at a time and I promise things do get easier. If you need to talk or need more advice inbox me. Good Luck and stay strong. Don't let them get you :)
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Thanks so much! :) I guess I went a little overboard. You're right, I shouldn't want to kill myself for this.. but I just want to have a normal life, with friends and everything. And these girls are making it really hard for me to have one.. whenever I try to make friends, they steal those girls away and bitch about me to them. So I have no idea what to do now.. But thanks anyways, your answer really helped! :)
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