about

< I am a Christian and I am a mother >
Hello all. I am a 36 year old married mother of three boys. I have my degree in Forensic psychology and business management- human resources, I work in social services while juggling my three children and a marriage. When I originally joined this community I was excited to get back into what I love and that is helping people through listening, understanding, and guidance. However I quickly found that through my desire to help others, others are helping me. I have found my advice column beyond rewarding. I have found myself getting extremely passionate about each and every question that I read and respond to. The more the questions the greater the connection I have found between people of all walks of life, ages groups, races, gender, and religion. What I have found to be our greatest bind is love. Love for others and the love of being loved.

advice

17/f

My group of 4 guy friends want me to sing with them in their reggae band, and I'm soo excited because I love singing and its on my bucket list to join a band. They play a show at least once a week at local lounges, clubs, bars..etc (im going to be 18 in a month so I dont have to worry about the age). A lot of the places get pretty packed with people.

My problem, hence the title, is my terrible stage fright. I know I have a really good voice, but when I know people are listening I freak out. I was in the top choir in my school, and even when I was with 20 other people I'd get so nervous. The only reason that the kid asked me to sing is that he heard me when I thought no one else was in the room haha.

Basically, what are some tips on overcoming this fear? Any techniques of relaxation or calmness, or even voice excersizes. Any other advice is also welcome :)

Thanks!

Use your nerves to your advantage. It will allow you to concentrate all that much more. I too have extreme social anxiety but for some reason when I hit the stage it gets more focused. I have noticed the less prepared I am the more shaky my voice sounds. So be prepared is my first advice. What I do to help my nerves and I'm not sure if you are able to do this but when I am in front of a large group I look directly at them. I have found looking your audience in the eye actually makes them feel just as nervous as you. But you will also make a connection with them and bring them into the emotions of the song you are trying to convey. But, when I look them in the eye I have a way of making them look blury to me. (sounds weird probably) but that way it's almost like they disapear.

My last comment which should definately ease your mind; the venues you are going to perform at will be filled with people drinking alcohol. They are going to think you are awsome regardless if you sing beautifully or horribly which I know won't be the case but just think about that. They will love you!

You will do GREAT! Be prepared and have a blast. This is a great opportunity, don't let your nerves get the best of you and you'll be awesome.

Once you get famous I want my shout out girl, don't forget the little people. lol Please send me a link to one of your performances if you can. I would love to hear some great reggae.

[view]

(Rating: 5) thank youuuu! :) ill let you know.
<<< Previous Advice Column
Next Advice Column >>>
eXTReMe Tracker