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Q: I am almost positive I was raped but I am not 100%...About a year ago I was with my well now ex boyfriend and we had been dating for over a year...One day we ended up at his house and we were doing stuff...Well I always got really scared and wanted to cry so I was asking my "sex expert" of a friend what to do and she thought I was ready to have sex. I told my boyfriend this and he started pushing me to do so. He used everything he could to get me to give in from family, to religion, to friends, to if I really loved him...Even though before he said he would wait as long as I needed...Especially since from the start of the relationship I told him that I didn't want to have sex until marriage and he was perfectly fine with that. When I told him to give me to the next time I saw him so I could make sure I was positive and make it hopefully more romantic he got mad at me and was yelling at me that I was going to do what I normally do and back out then accused me of blue balling him all of the time and how it wasn't fair on his part. Eventually I screamed fine then went to the bathroom and cried a little then went back to his room and just gave in...Is this rape? We were fighting and I know he pressured me but I don't know what it is legally considered...I absolutely hate myself for what I did.

Sorry for this being so long

Okay according to the law when you "gave in" I'm assuming you gave your consent and let him do it so it would not be considered rape in the court of law. However I do think personally that even if you gave in you still did not want to so (again my personal opinion) I think you were raped but, no, it would not be considered rape in court.

Rating: 5

Thank you so much :)

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I am 19 and I have gone through so much in the last few years. If you send me a question, I will try to answer it to the best of my ability. Don't hesitate to ask me for advice!