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OK so my husband and I have been married 3 years, and having kids is always something that "we'll have to talk about". Seriously though, my biological clock is screaming at me. My husband and I are 28 and 27 respectively. Having a baby is something we could handle. How do I bring this up to him in a way that won't freak him out or turn him off to the idea?
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"Something we'll have to talk about" is passive-aggressive speak for, "well, I don't really want that, but if you browbeat me enough into it I will probably just resign myself to it because I am too much of a pussy to say no to you since I am afraid that no other woman will allow me to see her naked if you get angry with me and decide to cashier the relationship."
So you have a big uphill climb here. You want a baby for what amounts to your selfish need to breed and really little else. That is very common, but the problem is that when you introduce a new element into a given chemistry you never know what the result will be. It may be happy fun time or it may culminate in an explosion.
At the very least, the guy will make you raise the kid almost alone while he tries to distance himself from the unpleasant day to day responsibilities of changing diapers, feeding, etc. He is also not exactly going to be well chuffed about the fact that so much of your emotional and physical energy will be consumed by the baby rather than attending to his needs.
So before you have a kid, you had better thoroughly sound him out about it. Hell, you should have done that before you got hitched since now if the relationship dissolves you will have to get lawyers involved.
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You sound bitter, but here's a good rating to make you feel better about your failed relationships :)
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