I am an advice hound. I love to give advice, get advice, read advice columns. I love telling people what to do ; D
Truly, I have a love for people and an honest desire to see every individual excel and succeed in their personal lives, to shed themselves of as many burdens as possible and enjoy this strange and terrible and wonderful gift that is LIFE
Location: Los Angeles
Occupation: advice guru and life coach
Member Since: June 9, 2009
Answers: 900
Last Update: February 5, 2012
Visitors: 32876
Main Categories:
Love Life
Families
Spirituality
View All
|
| |
|
I am a 48 year old female who live her mom all her life. My mom helped me to raise my 3 children who are now 28,26,18 and I would not have been able to do it without her. We were a team mom and I and were there for each other through thick and thin good time and bad. All 4 of us love my mom so much. My mom just passed away a little over a month ago and I have yet to shed one tear and I am really starting to get more then a little concerned. It doesn't seem to really bother me that I dont hear her voice or see her smiling face. This has been very hard on my children yet they talk to me about how they miss her very much. I don't seem to feel any of this and I am starting to think I am just a cold hearted person. Is this normal? (link)
| |
Oh yes. This is very normal. You are not cold hearted. You are numb. Shock is the first stage of grief and can last for quite a while. Do an internet search on "the stages of grief" to educate yourself about the different cycles you will be going through. Also, look in your local paper or online for grief support groups. Contact your local hospital too - they will have a directory of support groups. It will help to be around other people going through the same thing, other people who have suffered a great loss and are confused about coping. Don't panic and don't be hard on yourself. Give yourself permission to experience your mother's death in whatever way is happening at that moment. You are not a bad person. You are normal and what you are feeling (or not feeling) is normal, but it will help you to talk to other people who know what you're going through, so do look a support group nearby and attend. Good luck to you and I am so sorry for your loss.
|
|
Rating: 5
| |
Thank You Very Much this was very helpful I am looking into those groups as I am reading this.
|
|