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A friend of mine and myself spent the night last year after she broke up with her (on again/off again) boyfriend. Because she was my friend, I guess I assumed that there may be something more long term there and was a little dissapointed when she got back with her boyfriend the following week when I got back from a trip. But I handled myself well and got over it.
A couple of months later, same routine. Again I just let it go, telling myself... "first time, shame on you, second time shame on me".
Things went on, and we remained rather good friends, however the last time she broke up with her last boyfriend, I was the one to help her through it, she was really crushed. Before I knew what was up, I fell for her. I tried to deal with the emotion but was unable to, and subsequently told her. At first she seemed flattered and interested, then all of a sudden the old boyfriend is back in the picture, I am told I am delutional about some aspects of her ever showing interest, and kicked to the curb.
One of the things (which I am comfortable telling) is that I read interest from her was us playing footsie for 15minutes. She insists that I initiated the game and she imediatly declined...
love may scew the flow of time but... c'mon.
Things did escalate beyond that.
I need unbiased advice, I am emotionally caught up in this mess and I feel more and more that this "friend" should take a hike. I am worthy when no one else is around. It feels like this time broke the camels back.
Any input would be greatly appreciated. (link)
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aww I'm sorry :( (don't worry I won't be biased hahah) I think you should let her go..it's hurting you that you are hoping she will let go of her on/off boyfriend, and when he's "off" it's like she's leading you on a bit since she knows you have feelings for her...but then goes running back to him.
So take a step back, keep a safe distance. If it's meant to happen then it WILL happen, but she needs to be fully committed. It's great you help her out but you need to look after your own feelings as well. You shouldn't try to be with someone who appears hot and cold. And she doesn't really know what she wants
Step back you deserve better
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hehe, i agree... like i said, we used to be friends... and suppose thats the key... was.
I do believe that i will take two big steps back.
thanks
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