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Q: iowehkfnsdouwehkjf

i'm so frustrated and mad..

I honestly have no real friends.. all of them backstab me so many times :'( Its gotten so bad to the point where I just want to run away and leave and go somewhere else.

I don't know what to do anymore.. I feel so alone. I could give you endless examples of how my friends treat me. Here are a few. We are getting ready to go out and party, just as we step out the door, one of them goes "oh sorry Lauren I can only fit 6 people in my car" so I was the one who had to find my ride there... out of all the girls, they picked me to find my own ride. Another example- we are talking about going out to eat lunch and they are trying to figure out which restaurant to go to. They ask me and I suggest Noodles and they said "ew no" then 3 seconds later someone else says Noodles and they go "ya!"... uhhhh what??? i just said that...

there's just been so many times when they backstab me and talk about me and just treat me so badly.. but then other times they are nice and say hi and what not.

I'm just so fed up being treated this way. I cry all the time because I feel so bad about myself. I don't feel pretty at all, I feel like a complete loser because I don't have any real friends.

Ugh what should I do?? I've tried making new friends but with my busy schedule and HUGE school (my high school has 4,000 kids) it takes such a long time to find good friends with someone. There's like 5 weeks left of school. I really just want to get it over with and graduate already (i'm a senior) but at the same time I don't want to end on a bad note.. I'm just so frustrated and confused and I dont know what to do anymore.. I'm so sick of being treated this way. I've tried to stand up for myself but they laugh at me and ignore me.

Oh and I don't have anyone to go to for help.. My mom doesn't live with me and its very hard to communicate with her. My dad wouldn't care at all and doesn't want to get involved. I don't have any siblings. All of my close family is vey very far away and hard to contact them. I don't have any best friends or mentors or counselors to talk to.. :(

Wow. Okay, right away, those people aren't your friends if they're treating you like that. You should definitely just slowly drop them. Drift away because they obviously don't know how to be good friends. It's a good thing that you tried to stand up for yourself. I know making new friends is really hard, but if you really want some new ones, just drift toward a different crowd. And since it's your senior year, to be honest, I'd be focusing on getting the heck outta there so I could go out into the real world. You'll definitely find better friends after school. Friends come and go, it's all apart of how life goes. You just need to make sure you pick the right ones. You don't need to feel bad about yourself, you did nothing wrong. You're not a loser, you're just nice and they're taking advantage of that, which is extremely cruel of them. I kind of know how you feel, but I drifted away from my friends because I was sick of them trying to put me in situations that would get me hurt or using me. Best of luck to you, and if you want to talk more about it, you can email me at nightmarerealm@live.com.

Rating: 5

thank you for your honest advice. you helped me so much realize I don't need these people in my life. I would much rather look for a true friend than be dragged down by these people. thank you again! I will definitely email you if I need to!

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Hi hi hi! Call me Tsukuyomi. I'm an avid writer and reader with a peculiar taste in books and music. I love gay and supernatural books, such as the Archangel Academy series (which has both of those lovely genres!). I enjoy K-Pop and J-Pop music as well as the old time rock and roll. I'm really into researching mythology and religion. I'm open-minded and optimistic with a bit of sarcasm on the side, but I don't bite!