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A couple of months ago I got back into contact with a guy I went to school with. I had always had a thing for him and as soon as we started talking again all the old feelings came back. We are both from the same city but at different universities which are at least 6 hours apart.
When we were both back in our hometown for the Easter break, we met up a couple of times. He was very keen and at first I felt that he liked me more than I liked him. We were also still talking all the time. I thought it was going really well. After our third date, he asked when he could see me again and we arranged that I would go to his house a few days later. After that I suddenly stopped hearing from him and on the day we were supposed to see each other, he cancelled at the last minute. The next day, I asked if I was going to see him before I went to my grandparents' house for a few days and he said I could come over that night. Again, he cancelled at the last minute. After that he went back to university and I didn't hear from him for over a week.
On Friday night, after not hearing from him for so long, he invited me over to his friend's house because he was back in town for a few days. He seemed really pleased to see me and when I asked why I hadn't heard from him he said he didn't know when I was coming back from my grandparents' house, which I thought was a bit of a lame excuse but accepted it because he was being so nice. We ended up having sex that night and at the time I made it really clear that I liked him and didn't want to just not hear from him again. The next day he was texting me telling me how amazing the night had been.
I'm going back to university today so I hinted that I would like to see him before I went. He asked me what time I was leaving but after that he went quiet again.
I'm really confused because before we started 'seeing' each other he told me how he was sick of sleeping around and wanted a girlfriend. He was the one who seemed really keen and told me he really liked me but he keeps going off the radar.
We're both going to be back at university until the end of May now so we won't see each other. Is it worth bothering to try and keep in touch with him or should I just forget about it? I really like him but I'm not prepared to embarrass myself by constantly chasing after him and I don't want to scare him off by asking him straight out what's going on.
I'm 19, he's 21. (link)
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I know its hard to hear, but you were a booty call. Walk away from this one and take it as a lesson learned. Don't sleep with a guy before you're even dating, unless you want to be nothing more than entertainment. You're better than that.
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Thanks for your advice but we were dating and he's someone I've been friends with for years, not just some random person I'd just met.
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