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Just like my title says, I messed up. I was at my boyfriends hockey game and he gave me his phone to play with because he was going to be playing 2 games and mine was dead. I dicked around on angry birds for almost an hour and then of course curiosity got the better of me and I looked ay his texts. I noticed he was talking to a girl named meghan more than me so of fucking course I had to be nosy and read the texts. They've been flirting for a month on and off. Just little things like her calling him sweetie and him saying they should cuddle. It bothered me a lot at first, even gave me a stomach ache. But I didn't say anything. I feel like I brought it on myself by going through his personal stuff.
Its been 2 weeks now and when I think about it I don't feel sick anymore, but I do regret doing it.
I am curious though why he's flirting with her. She lives in rhode island and we live in pennsylvania so its not like he's going to cheat.
Do you think I should talk to him about it or let it go. He would be livid if he knew I went through his phone, and I really love him.
I'm 20 and he is 28. And we have been together for a year and a half.
Thank you! (link)
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Yes, what you did was wrong, but in the process you ended up finding out he was doing something wrong too. You're going to have to face up to this and clear the air. You can't pretend you didn't see what you saw, and it would be silly to think it doesn't mean anything. Who cares where the girl is? You've been together over a year and he's talking and flirting with other girls? That says a lot about where you place in his priorities. I'm afraid you're just going to have to put on your big girl panties and deal with this. Tell him you looked through his texts, you know it was wrong, you're sorry you did it, but you did find the messages and they hurt you. He'll be pissed, of course, but try to keep him on the subject. The point is, you want to know what the hell the is up with the other girl and why he doesn't care for you enough to let you be the only one on his mind and heart. You may not like the answers, or his reaction, but you've found a problem in your relationship that isn't going away by itself. Find out where you stand. good luck.
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Thank you but i think im going to wait a little while a longer. I just cant bring myself to admit that i did that. I feel horrible about myself. Like im not good enough and i just somehow proved im not...
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