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I am a 17 year old Female, me and my boyfriend have been together from september 2007.... since december 2008 we have been having sex and from about Jan. or Feb. 2009 weve been having unprotected Sex.. and still now.. I do not want a child at my age.. i don't want to get pregnant but its like an addiction and no matter how much we worry about getting pregnant we still do it. i do not want to get pregnant and i don't want to bring a child into this world without proper care which i cannot provide at the time. but it bothers me that people out there get pregnant from a rip in the condom and i use no protection at all and i let him cum in me and i don't get pregnant... its not that i want to get pregnant, its just that i want to one day.. and i feel like i will never be able to.. i thought about it and figured out that that he's a heavy smoker and that might be why, don't worry he's of age and he's only a year older than me he's 19 and i'm going to turn 18 at the end of the year. but anyways its too early to go to the doctor to check because i'm still in high school but i'm always worrying..... has this happened to anybody before? what happened to you? and what suggestions do you have for me.
thank you
-Pearl101 (link)
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Some people it happens on the first time, some people it takes eight months of regimented effort to hit the fertile cycles.
We only emphasize the first part because teens are liable to take "it might take six months" as permission to do the stupid shit that results in "it happened the first time".
Stop. Unless you are infertile you WILL get pregnant. If you really want to find out ask your gyno.
I'm married. My wife and I are both ready for children in pretty much every way except the "I can pay for a kid's food" kinda way. Unprotected sex holds a tremendous appeal for a variety of reasons.
It wouldn't be any better of a situation for us than it would be for you. We don't have a support structure that would let us have an accident and just go with it. We have to be extremely careful even in the face of a strong desire to throw caution to the wind.
You're not a child anymore. Control yourselves. Get on birth control, and until you've been on birth control for a month use both condoms and spermicide, they're on the same aisle, try VCF.
It should not bother you that others get knocked up easier. Yeah, some women are more functionally fertile. I'm sure there's someone here who can tell you the science behind how that works and why. Tempting fate is not the right way to work out your worries about being able to have kids.
"I'm in high school so I can't see a doctor so I'll just get myself knocked up instead!"
Evaluate that statement like one of your friends were making it to you. How stupid would your friend sound? Get on birth control before you do exactly what you're worried you can't. Infertility is rare, it's more likely him than you from what I know of the various causes, and it's entirely possible that if you stop being an idiot long enough to build a life for yourself that you'll be able to have all the kids you want with a little help from those doctors you're apparently too young to look into right now.
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ha ha, although some things said sounded negative towards me.. over all i appreciate it, i understand what you mean and like the other hundred times i told myself to get the pills i'll say it and try it again... thanks for the honesty...
-Pearl101
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