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Hello,
I very rarely contribute to this site, although find it to be very beneficial and I'm glad it's around. I've had some questions answered through other posters, so I often lurk, I just very rarely contribute.
That being said, I'm seeking some advice.. I'm good friends this this girl from a town nearby. She attends public school, while I'm homeschooled. This limits us from seeing one another very often, although we talk very often online and fairly often on the telephone. Currently, we're not seeing each other in person, but every few months. This will change if this relationship ever develops into something more.
The girl is currently dating a guy and their relationship appears to be fairly decent. I've gotten some vibes from her that seem to imply she has an interest in me. She tells me she loves me (which is something I am hesitant in saying in return, as the young age of 15, I feel love is a hard thing to understand) and she's also sent me some photos of herself that her boyfriend would probably not appreciate. Now why that generally would indicate she's a wee bit on the skanky side, that's not the case, she's just a girl that trusts me, as we've been real close friends for a long time.
That said, I really want to see our relationship move on, but is it worth it? I suppose my real question is, what to do? Part of me wants to pursue this further, since she's implied she likes me, but another part of me makes me hesitant, as if she is in a relationship now and liking another guy, I could very well end up being cheated one if I were to pursue this.
I'm a real selective guy (I know that sounds contradictory, a hormonal teenager being selective), but I have standards and she is really a wonderful girl. I just think she's maybe a little confused, I certainly don't want to think that she is interested in me and wants to have me around on the side, along with her boyfriend.
Thanks in Advance,
Chase, 15/M (link)
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Ok so from what i understand. You want to work this out as discrete and non-violent as possible right? Well two things to consider: 1. You can pursue this opportunity to be with her or 2. You can just stay friends. Personally i'd stay friends with her. Even though she may trust you the fact that she's a bit on the "skanky" side may suggest that over time that part of her may act up. But trust me. Its better to keep a friendship with someone than it is to lose that friendship over love. Love is a widely misinterpreted concept. However, if you want to get with her then you need to make sure it will work out. I'm saying to think of every possible thing that can happen based on how both of you are with each other. If you get a good feel out of it then i'd say go for it.
Thats about all i can advise. Be careful and good luck.
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Thanks for your perspective. I welcome the opinions of others to help me get view the situation from a different light. Appreciate your time.
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