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I am 21 and my boyfriend who I have been with for 3 years now is moving interstate coz he got offered a job. He will be about 12 hours driving away and we already had a year apart when he was traveling overseas last year. It is so hard on us and I don't think I can do this again since he will be away for 3 years and by then we will be 24 and that is a massive part of our lives if we don't end up staying together anyway. I always thought we would end up married and having babies in a few years time. He is leaving in a month and I love him so so much like he loves me but I can't wait around for 3 years for him. It's just too hard. When do I tell him and what do I say? I don't want to break up with him but I think I'll have to I have no choice. I don't want him to not go because I will break up with him either. I have no idea what to say. It's our 3 year anniversary in 10 days as well :( please help me.

You are still young; 24 is still too young to get married and have babies, don't you agree?

If I were you, I'd end the relationship. Stay in contact after he leaves, definitely remain friends, but allow each other to date. You both deserve happiness. And if you each find someone better in your time apart, then good for you - because that odd one out at the time has someone better for them coming in the near future, also. If you're both single after three years' time, you can reconnect and try to pick up where you left off.

Don't waste your youth on such a long-distance relationship, hon. Live life.

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