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Hi, okay
so basically I'm 19 years old, and I've smoked pot daily since I was 13. My life revolves around it. I often smoke a bowl before I'm even out of bed in the morning, and generally keep my buzz going by smoking more and more on an hourly basis throughout the day. I smoke weed at work, when I was in school, I blazed all day at school too. I got kicked out of my parents house as a result. A lot of my money and energy goes to staying high. I recognize that it isn't a sustainable way to live and I want to stop. But when I'm not maintaining a high, I default to liquor, or whatever drug is available at the time. It's almost like the only place I can get pleasure or contentment is from getting that light, dizzy feeling in my head. I don't want to go to a therapist - I have dysthymia, a borderline personality, ADD, social anxiety, and a whole host of other issues I've been clinically diagnosed with but refuse to take medicine for. As far as I'm concerned, this is the hand that God dealt me with and I believe in coping with it without drugs. I think there's a huge difference between solving a problem, and just eliminating it. So basically smoking weed has been my means of self-medicating and I've been hugely dependant on it for 6 years. I feel like I'm going to be depressed and suicidal if I stop. But I don't wanna be that person that self-medicates either. I would like to stop but willpower has never been one of my strong points and it's HIGHLY available to me.. I won't go into the details because I'd rather not implicate anyone, but there are people in my life who make a living off of pot and they definately aren't going anywhere. Nor do I want these people out of my life, they are very dear loved ones and that just isn't an option. Soo with all this in mind, does anyone have any ideas on how I might stop? Especially I would appreciate comments from people who used to blaze a lot and stopped themselves. Anyways thanks in advance, hope I get something useful (link)
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So you believe in coping with your issues without drugs but you a)won't go see a therapist and b)won't stop using pot. What's the difference between medicating with pot and medicating with some other medicine that might actually cure you? You are addicted. There's no other way to put it. You're addicted because you can't cope with your real life without being high. So if you really want to stop smoking (and I believe you do), than the best place to start is therapy, because you won't kick the urge until you kick the cause of the urge. You need help. Is that such a bad thing to admit? You don't even necessarily need to stop smoking right away. Just go see someone and start working to figure out how to reasonably live with your mental health issues. As you discover more about yourself and the reasons for your dependency, you'll naturally start to 'need' pot less and less until one day it just isn't a part of your daily existence anymore. You can't do this alone. And that's not a bad thing. That's a fact of life. If takes a lot of guts to admit you need help and seek help when you need it. Do you have the guts?
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there is no way I could afford to see a psychologist in this stage of my life. I have been in and out of therapy since I was a small child and it never did a single positive thing for me, anyways.
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