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Hi, okay
so basically I'm 19 years old, and I've smoked pot daily since I was 13. My life revolves around it. I often smoke a bowl before I'm even out of bed in the morning, and generally keep my buzz going by smoking more and more on an hourly basis throughout the day. I smoke weed at work, when I was in school, I blazed all day at school too. I got kicked out of my parents house as a result. A lot of my money and energy goes to staying high. I recognize that it isn't a sustainable way to live and I want to stop. But when I'm not maintaining a high, I default to liquor, or whatever drug is available at the time. It's almost like the only place I can get pleasure or contentment is from getting that light, dizzy feeling in my head. I don't want to go to a therapist - I have dysthymia, a borderline personality, ADD, social anxiety, and a whole host of other issues I've been clinically diagnosed with but refuse to take medicine for. As far as I'm concerned, this is the hand that God dealt me with and I believe in coping with it without drugs. I think there's a huge difference between solving a problem, and just eliminating it. So basically smoking weed has been my means of self-medicating and I've been hugely dependant on it for 6 years. I feel like I'm going to be depressed and suicidal if I stop. But I don't wanna be that person that self-medicates either. I would like to stop but willpower has never been one of my strong points and it's HIGHLY available to me.. I won't go into the details because I'd rather not implicate anyone, but there are people in my life who make a living off of pot and they definately aren't going anywhere. Nor do I want these people out of my life, they are very dear loved ones and that just isn't an option. Soo with all this in mind, does anyone have any ideas on how I might stop? Especially I would appreciate comments from people who used to blaze a lot and stopped themselves. Anyways thanks in advance, hope I get something useful (link)
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I can see where you're coming from. I'm not going to bitch to you, but when you consider quitting smoking pot, let this idea really hit you (haha,cheesy puns!)
Anywayssss,
You say you've been smoking for about 6 years. That's a great,great chunk of adolescence you've used the herb. In adolescence, the brain grows in various amounts of ways, that you may not have even realized. You may have grown out of many of your disorders, if you had stayed sober enough to feel normal again. The brain is malleable, almost like clay. Give it enough time to fix itself with out any use of drugs,and you'll be thankful you've stopped.
Since it's been so habitual for so long, you're going to have to very, very slowly turn away from it.But you can do it, if you plan it right.Write down how many times a day you smoke, and how much you spend on it a month, and then how many times a month you smoke (estimated). Once you've done this create a plan on your calender to start cutting down slowly every month, then week, then day, until you are completely ridden of it. (This may take many,many months). Take into consideration the other upsides of ridding yourself, rather than the downsides. You'll have more money, you'll care more, you'll develop a new personality, and you'll feel better about yourself that you're doing something for you. It seems as though you feel trapped within a never ending circle, and are just going with the motions. Stopping the motion all together is the only way to choose a new destination (which in your eyes is a better future)
Now, I'm not one to say ganja is in any way bad, as it has many good effects. Sometimes though, which has happened to many people, it makes them feel like they're not good enough with out it. You may feel intense insecurity, which leads to depression if you don't cope with it the right way. But remember, everyone has felt insecure and vulnerable to new things. Over time it goes away so long as you stick with a positive idea in your head. Think reassuring thoughts, things like
"I will get better, I'm getting older and moving on from this point of my life, I'm doing this for myself. I will become something, create something I'm proud of"
Repeat this as much as you can, write it down, look at it every morning. Whatever it takes.
Next, start to view weed as most of a "fun past time" rather than an "every day ritual". Look at is as though you're breaking up with a girlfriend who's lazy and become a bore,but you'll still be fond of the memories you've shared. :P
Creatively, you can excel- pick up an instrument, a pen and paper, write,draw-create other outlets than just smoking pot all day. Will-power comes when you've got the courage to try something new, and you've clearly decided want to change with this question. So don't think you don't have any, it's in there.
You say it's highly available to you from loved ones, well, to put shortly loved one's will always understand. Say "Truth be told, I'm feeling a need to move on from smoking." - And don't listen to whether they accept it or not, this is for you. If they can't accept it, then let them know that you don't want to live in the situation you've been in and want to try something new. They'll support you and come around if you stick with you're decision, maybe even be proud of you.
I'm going to leave this part short-
Therapy may seem like a "needy-helpy-resource"
But if I could, I'd go to it in a heartbeat. These people have read books upon books of how the mind works, and generally are looking at helping you cope with your disorders,on a brain functioning level. So although they look at you as a person, they're really just applying the general psychological info. they know on how the brain works. It's like, they break down all that is you to your main ingredients, and try to make a new and better mixture. Feel meh? I personally think it's fascinating, if you couldn't tell :P.
I really hope I've helped, I know this is long, but I've been here before. It's a long road. But you gotta start somewhere. I can only hope for the best for you now, good luck and stay strong!
xkisakissx
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appreciate all the help although in reference to therapy, I have been in and out of it for years and have never found it to anything but waste my money and time. have never found a therapist or psychologist who seemed to have an insight into me whatsoever and I can definately not afford to go back with the same results.
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