Hello, call me Abby =] I'm eighteen and a senior in high school this year. I've always had great advice, I'm just not so great at following it =P Feel free to ask me anything, I'll do my best to give you an answer.
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Whatever happened to Monogamy? I broke up with this guy 7 months ago because he was still receiving calls from numerous women. Now 7 months later he has contacted me..I made the wrong mistake that he wanted a true relationship, but I recently got the nerve and asked him was he sleeping with other women. He said he was not sleeping with anyone else, but he stated that there was still the possibility that he would sleep with someone else. I eventually walked away this week and asked him to just leave me alone. I dont know what to think or what he wanted. Now wondering whether he cared for me at all? I am 42 he is 51. (link)
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You have a good question.
Some people just don't value monogamy anymore. Monogamy has sort of been in a cycle of social acceptance. In the time of ancient rome orgies were held and many stories of royalty involve affairs that were meant to be secret but blatantly were not. Go back to your great grandparents and the norm was to marry pretty young and stay committed to that person. If you broke that bond it was a sin against society and the church, those people were heavily ostracized.
The big influence was the church. If you were Catholic, divorces were not allowed, period. People felt stuck. Today, you don't find as many devout people who follow such laws. They think, why even get married? I can date around, be with whom I want, and not be tied down.
It really depends on the person. It sounds like your guy is a player and isn't looking for commitment. At his age (the midlife crisis zone) it seems like he just wants to enjoy life. Does that mean you can't be monogamous? No, but he doesn't realize that for whatever reason.
You should just move on and look elsewhere. You will find that one person who is special. He will see the best in you and want YOU and you only.
Besides, you can do better then the guy whose giving you a hard time, you are almost a decade younger!
Good luck,
-Abby
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Thank you for the AWESOME advice! I found out later that he was sleeping with me and six other women I know of at the same time. :(
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