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we have had sex before a few months ago and have been best friends for 5 years. we have kept in touch since i moved to college an hour away a couple months ago and just recently started sexy textng again. he always says he wants to marry me and i would be the perfect wife and girlfriend and we always sexy text and make jokes about being lovers and getting married-but i think to a point we really do think about it. he says he has fallen hard for me in the past and still has feelings for me. then i came to town (because i moved an hour away,) last weekend and when i hung out with him we went to his house, watched a movie, drank vodka and passed out and just slept..he passed out first. no action. we joked about it later in the week that we got too drunk to rape eachother (my head was spinning when i laid down haha) but anyway yes....dissappointed!!
so this weekend i came to town and texted him and didnt hear from him. i texted him again today and he wrote back hey how are you im in georgia visitng family. i was like oh wow okay. i told him i was coming to town and we had talked again about "raping" eachother..i would have rearranged my schedule to come another time when he would have been able to hook up but of course he goes to georgia and doesnt tell me until he is there.
i think i should mention he seriosuly sucks at calling and texting back not only this weekend but thats kind of his "thing" he is terrible at it, but when is good we have amazing conversations! ugh of course thats how it is!
so basically what is wrong with him! he leads me on in a very lovey way but then does this. he always talks about visiting me but doesnt make an effort. im getting sexually frustraqted if anyone can tell haha. anyway any thoughts on him? (link)
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"he always talks about visiting me but doesnt make an effort."
He doesn't need to make the effort. You are always available to him whenever he wants you, and then he can go back to his life without making any kind of plans or commitments with you because he doesn't have to. You say its his "thing" to suck at calling and texting, but he'll sure do it when he's horny, right? This guy may be decent, but he's still using you. If you have no standards, there's nothing for him to rise to meet. I don't think there's anything wrong with him, in the respect that a guy's going to do what a girl will let him do. Its you that has the problem. you need to ask yourself why you're so willing be involved in a sexual relationship with a guy who clearly doesn't want anything deeper, and clearly you do. What is it you're looking for? If you want to know if this guy can be serious with you, walk away from it for a while. Don't call and don't text first and don't be available for him whenever he wants. If he has a problem with it and he feels hurt, there's your opportunity to tell him how you really feel and what you really expect from him, as a man. If he doesn't bother making the effort to contact you anymore, then walk away for good and be grateful you found out his true colors before you got in any deeper.
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yeah! i agree with you! im going to not call or text for a while and just see and screw him if he doesnt :) yeah we seem to be in the same place about the whole relationship thing but yes since i have been rather horny i have been the one making an effort haha but thank you again!
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