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Hey guys. I'm just a girl going through the transition of a teenager to an adult and all that it entails.
I've had a colourful life with many a lesson learned and much to offer. Whether you want advice, support or just a chat then all you gotta do is reach out.
I'm honest, whether it hurts or not, but i'm fair; open minded and philosophical, a little crazy yet very logical, at times rather controversial.
If you have a question go ahead and ask!
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I killed my baby - now i can't live with the guilt. I don't know what to do.I am angry at the father for not caring and so I harass him as much as possible. My therapist says I need to let it go but I can't. Help me! How do I move on?
You can only move on when you stop with the negativity. Stop blaming yourself, your circumstances and the father. You cant move on until you come to terms with what has happened and accept that it did. You need to want to move on yet it seems you are intent on making yourself feel worse by being passive aggressive.
Confront your feelings, thoughts and emotions; deal with what you're going through: scream, cry, lash out (at things - not people), whatever it takes to get all of this out of you. Go through the grieving process and then deal with what youve gone through.
If youre talking about abortion - which im assuming you are - then you've most likely done it for logical reasons: such decisions are seldom done lightly. Once you have dealt with the emotional aspects of the situation you can start looking at the reality for what it really is. Theres a REASON why you gave the baby up.
Even so, there are different methods of abortion and time frames as well as limitations by law for a good reason. And the earlier you had it aborted the less it was a baby. Likely to be only a stem cell to the growth of major organs. Dont look at this so much as killing a baby, rather you've stopped the process of it growing into one.
Whatever way you choose to look at things or whatever you do, only you can make the decision and put in the effort necessary to move past this emotional trauma.
(Rating: 5) I know you are trying to help and I thank you for that but the reason I can't get past this is that I was 6 months pregnant when I got my first stretch mark and I didn't want any more so I did "things" so my baby would STOP MAKING ME UGLY, but now i really want a baby again and I wonder if I made a mistake? But if I got another stretch mark I would probably do this again so what do I do?