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my name is michaelyn & this weekend is going to be valentine's weekend. I have been dating a 17- year old boy for the past four months and i am 15 going on 16 very soon. i love him very much & it's been the best 4 months of my life. well, we have done everything except sex so far and we've had so many opportunites to, but we decided to wait for a special day to have sex that way we'll always remember it. this would be our first times having sex. i am not on birth control so we would be using a condom & pulling out to prevent pregnancy. what is some do's & don't's about sex? and how can you make it great?
also, the one thing that concerns me is pregnancy. i am 5 ft 1' and i weigh about 102 pounds. i've only ever gotten my period twice. once for a whole week in 2009 and once for a whole week in 2010. but that's it. i know everyone has a chance of getting pregnant, but what do you consider me? if i haven't had a regular period at all in my life & i've only gotten it twice in 3 years? my mom's called the gyno and she said that in sept. 2011 she'll do an ultra sound if i don't get it by then. but do you think i should be completely freaked out about getting pregnant? or should i just enjoy it & know that everything will be alright & we'll get through such a beautiful moment in our relationship.
we are both catholic so we don't consider ourselves "fucking" we consider it making love.. so as much as it's a sin to some people.. to me.. it's a gift to share such great love. and i am so thankful i am with someone who means so much to me. i'm very excited but please help with the do's and don'ts! and also about the chances of pregnancy. & i made sure i'm ready. just the scary pregnancy risks scares me so much.
i also i have the day after pill in my room for an emergency. i think i'm pretty well prepared. if i took the day after pill, would it make me bleed a lot because i haven't had a period in forever?
thank you so much guys! (link)
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Call or otherwise look up planned parenthood. Get ahold of money every month. Get birth control from them.
It's good you've got the morning after pill. If the condom breaks, use it. Yeah, you'll probably cramp to high hell, maybe bleed more than usual. Get a better plan than emergency contraception, it's not meant to be used regularly.
With a period as irregular as yours, assume that you could be ovulating at any time. If you don't know what ovulating means (no offense, I was raised Catholic and I sure as hell didn't know what it was at 15) go google it and learn about your cycle, irregular as it is.
And again, get on birth control.
Oh, last tip. VCF. Vaginal Contraceptive Film. It's on the condom aisle anywhere with a pharmacy and it's cheap. Spermicide, usable with condoms, 86 percent or so effective at preventing pregnancy if used as the sole method of contraception. Read and follow the instructions. It's a second line of defense in case of a condom breaking.
Condom, VCF, and a pill in case of breaks, you should be relatively safe. Don't forget to test the condom after you use it to make sure (fill it with water when you're done using it to see) Also don't forget that nothing is 100%.
So get on birth control and keep using condoms, because that's the closest to that 100% you'll probably ever get.
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