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So, to start this story off from the beginning, I have this ex who I was going out with like over two years ago. Last year around April we started meeting up again (he told me later that it was because he began to like me again). Around July though, he 'mysteriously' ended it with me, whatever it was that we were doing (then later he told me it was because he didn't want to have a relationship going down again).
A month ago, to hide a secret, I was forced to lie and say I've been with another guy. He told me himself that he felt like he just got cheated on, even though we weren't in a relationship. He said it felt bad and makes him not wanting to be with me anymore. After a few days he stopped logging on MSN and now he says it'd make him happy if we totally ignored each other (he said this in a nice way).
Now I know how this looks, but besides all that he's also told me he doesn't love me, doesn't like my personality, and basically the only thing he wants from me is meeting up and...you know. So my question is (since I'm not sure), is he jealous that his sex toy went with someone else? Or is he actually lying to himself about not liking me that way? Last year he got jealous because I said I'd have sex with this guy I've liked for years, if that helps. (link)
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Its the first thing - he's jealous that his sex toy went away. I know you wish he was lying to himself, but you should really be thanking him for breaking up with you. This guy sounds like a sleazebag. Read what you wrote -
"he's also told me he doesn't love me, doesn't like my personality, and basically the only thing he wants from me is meeting up and...you know."
Now imagine your best girlfriend is caught up with a guy like that. What would you tell her? What would you think of him? Leave this guy behind. You made a mistake by giving yourself to such a selfish, thoughtless guy. Take it as a lesson learned and save yourself for a loving, committed relationship.
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Thank you very much! Your advice really helped me!
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