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I'm 16 i have been with my boyfriend for about 4 months now, and its gotten to the point where we fight a lot but any time i try to leave him, he talks me out of it, i kinda wanna be with other guys but im not sure, i love him. But i've been talking to this other guy (just friends) and i fell for him, and i just dont know what to do about it because i love my boyfriend, but there;s always that temptation to be with someone else.. HELP! (link)
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If you're 4 months in and want to date other guys, break up and date other guys.
Yeah, he's going to try to talk you out of it. He likes you/wants to be with you. You don't. Thus, the relationship is doomed. I'd bet half your fights take place because you really don't want to put up with his shit, and try to anyway because you're a decent person and like him enough to stay.
A big part of relationships is figuring out what you can take by way of another person's shit and what you can't, and finding someone you care about enough to let alot of the little things slide.
If four months in you can't let things slide, and don't want to put up with his shit, then don't. You'll be happier if you get back out into the dating world and give yourself some chances to figure out what else you might like in a guy, see if there's someone who better matches what you need and what you can tolerate in another person.
You don't have to hate a guy to break up with him. You don't even have to dislike him. Things just have to not fit right. It sounds like things don't fit right here.
So when you break up, let him know that it's not that you hate him or can't stand him, it's just that you don't feel like you and he fit together well and you want to go find out who and what else there is out there that might fit better. Sometimes people can't be together, not because one of them is a horrible person, but just because there are too many differences and not enough reason to overcome them.
Let him down easy, but be firm about it. Don't allow him to talk you into staying or guilt you about it. Because the one thing that's guaranteed is if you stay with a guy you can't deal with long enough, you will end up hating each other.
Don't push yourselves to that point. Drop it now while you're both amicable enough to walk away undamaged.
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i ended up leaving him, but its killing us both=\
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