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im 21 years old...and heres my story , sorry if its short but i really need advice ,ok so i have a boyfriend who ive been in an on and off relationship for the past months, there was one time where we broke up for good like the other times we used to say we were broken up but kept comunicating and eventually got back...we were back now for good and things where better than ever, but i noticed there was a girl who has been trying to contact him like calling nonstop and texting alooot and he never replies to her messages he didnt wanted to tell me the complete story and kept giving excuses, today he had finally told me the truth, he told me during that time we were really broken up which was like 2 weeks... which is the only time i really felt we weren't gonna get back together, he told me he hooked up with this girl and they kissed , and thats why she's been trying to contact him cause she never felt like that with anyone or whatever, i dont blame her cause she didnt knew i existed , my point is..should i still be upset about this? it did hurted ALOT cause even during that time i was thinking we were gonna get back together and we kept speaking during that time but not like suggesting getting back just casual speaking, so i really dont know what to do now, please i need an advice i really gave my heart to him and eventho he tries to justify it by saying we were broken up, i still feel he cheated , cause we talked about this girl and he said nothing happened, and he told me he hasnt hooked up with anyone ever since we started dating which was february,

Hey,
I'm sorry you feel that way for starters.
Basically, it's completely understandable and normal for you to feel hurt by this, but you have to realise the truth of the matter was that you both did split. It doesn't matter how long for or anything, it's just that you broke up. Which is permission go separate ways. I read you say, that you're relationship was on and off? Just think, why was it on and off? Why not just "on"? It means it wasn't working right from the beginning, and even though you must've broken up a couple of times, you went straight back to him. To him that indicates that you're no longer a challenge. That he can hurt you whenever but you'll come back all the time. If the relationship is on and off all the time and you kept going back shows the damage of the relationship is doing nothing but bringing you back each time. So he probably thought that it's not that serious that you both broke up and that he must've got bored with the same routine and hooked up with some other girl while you both were split up. If YOU feel somethings not right then go with you're sensible instinct and end it, before you get hurt even more.

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(Rating: 5) thanks for the adive and tbh deep inside i know its best to walk away, but also i really love him and its so hard to accept that maybe i was the one who gave more in the relationship cause i think about it and i had the chance to hook up or go out with some people while i was with him and shut them down , so i cannot justify it was as easy as that for him when he was constantly accusing me of being the one more likely to cheat he always thought that i was interested in guys but only cause he was insecure cause i actually never did anything .
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