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My name is Juliet...I've done a lot in my life, and gone through hell and back many times. Which is why I'm perfect to give advice. I've gone through almost every relationship problem imaginable. Don't be scared to ask me questions. I'm on a lot, and I LOVE having this advice column. So ask away and I'll answer it the best I can. Also, I'm very blunt. If you ask me a question, I'm going to tell you what I think. I do NOT beat around the bush...or sugar coat things.
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Our brother's wife is overbearing and mean at every family get together. She goes on and on about how wonderful she is, how she does everything right while at the same time being mean and spiteful to everyone around her, particularly the children in the family. She takes over and acts like she's the one in charge every chance she gets. And she thinks nothing of making hurtful, spiteful comments. None of us say anything and continue to tolerate the behavior because we don't want to alienate our brother (who isn't much better than his wife). I say it's time we tell this know-it-all bully that we've had enough. If she doesn't care who's feelings she hurts then why should we? What's the worst that can happen? She stops talking to us? Big whoop I say. I just don't want it to be me who finally blows my top at the next family function while everyone sits by and acts like her behavior doesn't bother them. We've all discussed the situation and agree that she's become unbearable.
If your brother isn't going to say anything, maybe he doesn't notice, or doesn't want to say anything either. And as for saying he's as bad as his wife, then what. One comment, from a mean adult, can scar a child for life. I had a teacher who called me stupid, one time. And I've never forgotten about it. Someone needs to stand up to that "lady" and put her in her place. Nobody said you have to do it in an ugly way. The next time she decides to open her mouth, simply look at her dead in the eyes, and tell her everyone is sick of her attitude. Honesty really is a good policy. And if your brother marries a woman like that, why don't you try talking to your brother first. I really do hope that helps.
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Thank you for your advice! And I'm glad you pointed out the fact that mean comments made by adults to children can have powerful consequences.
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