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Our brother's wife is overbearing and mean at every family get together. She goes on and on about how wonderful she is, how she does everything right while at the same time being mean and spiteful to everyone around her, particularly the children in the family. She takes over and acts like she's the one in charge every chance she gets. And she thinks nothing of making hurtful, spiteful comments. None of us say anything and continue to tolerate the behavior because we don't want to alienate our brother (who isn't much better than his wife). I say it's time we tell this know-it-all bully that we've had enough. If she doesn't care who's feelings she hurts then why should we? What's the worst that can happen? She stops talking to us? Big whoop I say. I just don't want it to be me who finally blows my top at the next family function while everyone sits by and acts like her behavior doesn't bother them. We've all discussed the situation and agree that she's become unbearable. (link)
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Perhaps she senses that she is not completely welcome in the family and her attitude is a result of her insecurities. Mean people are rarely just mean. there's usually a reason, something they are trying to cover up. If it is that bad, you need to start with your brother. Give him the respect of letting him know how his wife is causing issues before you go behind his back. If he rejects you or doesn't seem to agree, you can all decide not to attend family functions with them (which seems tacky, after all, family isn't perfect, that's why its family!) or you can all decide to ignore her attitude and focus on enjoying each other. You can't ever change another person, you can only change how YOU react to other people.
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I'm sorry, but you couldn't be more off the mark here. She's certainly been welcomed with open arms into the family. I can truly and honestly say we have treated her like a sister. And, yes, there are people in this world who are just plain mean.
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