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I mostly prefer to answer questions about relationships whether they are the romantic sort or about friendships, however I also know a lot about books, music and sports. Do not ask me questions about cars or computers as I will most likely refer you to someone else's column. Other than that I love to answer questions and help people. Please rate fairly and honestly. :] Good luck to all you puzzled people out there.
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I am trying to figure out objectively what I should expect from a man I am in a relationship with, and what are things I might not be able to expect because some men just aren't that way. I am not materialistic or selfish, I am in fact the opposite. So certain things in my relationship I would like to see more of and I want to know if what I want is the same as what other women expect too. What are some things your man or a past boyfriend has done that you loved? And what are some things you wish your boyfriend or previous boyfriend would have done? Did the things you wish he would do effect your relationship negatively?
In a relationship I always expect the typical three things, obviously trust, honesty and respect. When one of these things are missing in my relationship I find that it definitely has a negative effect on my relationship. I had an ex who would always call me or somehow "happen to meet" me and my girlfriends on our girls nights out and I hated that he always had me on lock down. I also expect that although there is honesty I don't have to tell him everything that is upsetting me because there are some things I just don't want to talk about. My ex use to just hold me when I cried and he'd ask me once if I wanted to talk about it, if I didn't we just sit there and I'd be able to feel the security of him being there without being uncomfortable and having to spill all.
The most important thing I think is that when you do meet a boy, you can't expect him to do the things you want him to do all the time or do all the things. For example, there was a question on here from a girl artist about how to get a boyfriend to paint with her like her ex did. It's unreasonable to expect your boyfriend to share the interests as your ex boyfriend did but not unreasonable to find someone willing to experiment. Just don't expect everything to be the same.
Also I don't believe that affection just depends on the man. In the real relationships that I've been in all the guys have had no problem showing me their affection, none of them forgot anniversaries or couldn't be bothered on my birthday. If a guy really likes you, he'll show you. Hope I helped! Sorry this is long. :/ Good luck! xxx
(Rating: 5) Thanks! You helped alot in regards to the respect issues that I am having! I just wanted to see if I had a right to be bothered and you confirmed that. Again, Thanks!