Member Since: November 1, 2010
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This is pretty long if I go in detail so I will try to sum it up for you. I am 21 years old and my boyfriend is 22. I have been dating my boyfriend for almost a year and a half now. We rarely fight and if we do they are for legitimate reasons. But one thing that has bugged me since we started dating was his lack of showing me he loves me. I am not materialistic and I don't expect to be bought things all the time and wined and dined. But I do expect him to show some love on days like my birthday or Valentines Day, and our One Year Anniversary. My birthday we had been dating four months and he got me nothing and even threw a tantrum saying he was tired when we went out to celebrate my 21st when it was only 11 PM and we had been out for one hour. So we left and went home, which deep down upset me because it was MY birthday! Then Valentines Day came around and he told me 3 days before it that we shouldn't get eachother anything because he thinks Valentine's Day is overrated. Our one year anniversary we did absolutely nothing! He said he was broke and we would do something another time, but it has been 3 months since that and everytime I bring it up nicely he just blows it off and says sometime we will. I have been in several long relationships before him lasting 2 to 3 years each and all of those have been the same way. I always see other guys in relationships with their girlfriends taking cute pictures, celebrating anniversaries, and being taken out or even having their men cook for them on their birthdays. I don't want to be whiny and sound materialistic, but I feel like when I cook for him EVERYDAY and do his laundry, clean up his messes, and always do something special for him even on days that aren't his birthday or a holiday, that I should get something back in return! It's VERY frustrating and it is started to make me pull away from him. I don't want to TELL him what I want because then it doesn't feel special, but even if I hint towards it he just blows it off and acts like it is not important. Is he just not the right type of guy for me? Why are most guys like this? And what is the difference between the guy I am with and the other guys that really actually do sweet things for the girls they love? (link)
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i don't want to sound mean or anything but the question at the end when you ask "And what is the difference between the guy I am with and the other guys that really actually do sweet things for the girls they love? ' the answer to that is that they actually love them. you seem to go for the guys that don't show they care about you change your type of guys before you get seriously hurt and are blinded for when a really good guy comes along. if you really love this guy tell him HE NEEDS TO SHOW HE CARES OR YOUR LEAVING if he shrugs that off his shoulders he isn't even worth knowing or your time
Good Luck
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Your advice was correct, and not mean.. just blunt and to the point, which is exactly what I needed to hear. Thanks!
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