Heh first of all, stop being so hard on yourself! :) Don't worry so much about what others think about you, and don't excuse yourself for expressing your true feelings! Though since this is easier said than done, and believe me I know, I'll jump to the next part.

Although I'm sure you're a very attractive girl, it is normal to feel like others don't see you that way, especially if you feel like you're ready to have a boyfriend but are left feeling unwanted.

Put yourself out there! Realise your worth and get on the market. Try to be more sociable at school. Are there any boys you like or are interested in? Even if it's only as friends at first, get to know them!

It's great that you have good friends. Talk to them and let them know how you feel. You need to communicate with the people around you, especially those you can trust. Having people to trust is already a huge blessing, so embrace it and let out your true feelings. The only thing people on advicenators can offer is indeed advice, not a solution. YOU are the only one with power to change your attitude, self, or lifestyle, and if you really want a change, then get cracking!

Maybe you want to make a gameplan, maybe you're still too shy to jump into action and want to start out slow. Either way, the only way to get forward is to start moving.

Try to think and focus on any specific time of day you feel alone. Are there any patterns or is it a constant state of being? Be as honest with yourself as possible. Some self analysis here could probably go a long way. Are you feeling alone during, before or after a particular event? Do you feel most alone when you're at home, at school, where?

Finally, everybody's different and everyone has different needs when it comes to being happy. Each person has to work and take an active approach towards satisfying their own. Get active, make what YOU want, HAPPEN.

Are you envious of others around you who maybe have boyfriends? Of course there is nothing wrong with being single, at all, but if you seek that special bond with someone then look for it. Don't be afraid of boys rejecting you.

Not feeling alone can also come from many sources in your life. Try to keep your mind open and try new things, maybe get involved in new activities or take up a new hobby. Keeping active around other people is sure to take away some of the blues. I feel alone when I'm away from my comfort zones, and my main comfort zone is my boyfriend, who's also my best friend. Lately however, we haven't been able to see each other that often and seeing my friends and watching an uplifting movie really cheers me up.

Feeling alone isn't a constant state which you're going to have to live with. Keep that in mind, and find out what you want and love. You need to have someone you can trust and lean on, and speak to when things get rough. Wanting that isn't unusual, it's human.

P.S. Sorry for being so scattered. Hope to have helped a tad :) You seem like a great girl

thank you.I will think things through and see what I can do about this issue. :)

I'm in my second year of junior college, I'm taking English, pure maths, philosophy A, sociology, french and biology intermediate. There's not much about me I can write here, but I'll probably still end up writing things anyway..basically i just really like nice, non-judgmental people who have a sense of humour.

Im really optimistic, inspired, ambitious, dreamy, crazy, and unpredictable. I try to be non-judgmental, Im v.v open minded, sometimes can be a bit stubborn though. I love being passionate about things and certain people, having really close loving relationships.. living life to the full. I despise authority, believe in nature, adore music, love animals, nonconformist in every sense, unorganised, love adventure. Having fun with friends, playing games like we used to, having long meaningful conversations, building relationships, being able to feel free, being myself... Listening to music when I travel, enjoying nature.. hope to do something I love in the future.. mainly study psychology, maybe journalism, I would really love to do voluntary work in different countries. I really love travelling and..well, I write... Dont know what else to say (=.. ermm hope you're doing swell

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