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19/f so i have a friend. well she' isn't really my friend. i give her rides to school like every few weeks. she lives nearby me and we go to school at the same times mon-thurs. but i notice she never calls/texts me to hangout but only when she needs a ride. she's 21 and has a car. first she didn't have a license then today she told me her car got totaled and she wouldn't tell me why or how. so yeah i asked her if she wanted to hangout on friday and she said ok and i said text me. well anyways i gave her a ride yesterday and im giving her a ride to school on thursday. at the beginning of the school year she asked me to give her a ride every week but i said i couldn't every week but maybe every once in a while. well one time she asked if i could give her a ride and i said no, and then she saw me at school and looked at me and looked away. i guess she was mad. but i don't get why i mean it's not my job to give her a ride everywhere. it's annoying and she doesn't talk to me. i mean she says hey to me at school and we talk a little bit about classes but other than that she doesn't. and her mom, or anyone else in family can't give her a ride be cause they work and her siblings don't live with her. I mean i do say no sometimes because i feel like she is just using me kind of. i mean is she? and what should i do? (link)
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Yeah, she's using you. Next time she asks for a ride politely tell her you don't mind picking her up if she'll chip in for gas. Who cares if you live near her, you're driving your car and using your gas, so its only fair. My feeling is she'll either flip out or politely turn the offer down. In any case, tell her you're sorry it didn't work out and she can text you if she scrapes some money together for gas. Then go on your way and release yourself from your guilt. Just because someone asks you for a favor, doesn't mean you have to do it, and it doesn't mean you're bad for not doing it. You've got your own stuff going on, and obviously so does she. She obviously never feels bad for ASKING, so don't you feel bad for saying no.
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