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I wouldn't say I'm a bad person. I don't like the fact that I don't have sympathy. But it's difficult. If it doesn't really concern me I don't feel sad for your sake..
For example..Today one of my classmates boyfriend's killed himself and she is pregnant with his child.
We are reading a book called Tears of a Tiger in class and it has a shit load on suicide and depression and guilt and death in it. And while discussing it she burst out crying and ran out of the room.
I know this is a terrible situation for her but I just can't muster any sympathy. I could fake it but that's just pretend..
I don't know what's wrong with me. (link)
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I suggested the school counselor for a reason. It's non-parental adult feedback.
I don't know what to tell you about your parents, mostly because I don't know them. If I'd gone to my parents and seriously brought that up I think it would have scared them enough to get me what I wanted.
But my previous point stands. You need to talk to someone a little older and wiser. Give school counselor some thought, if your parents need to be notified they can help you figure out how to do it.
A last word. At 14 the concept of telling the world to go to hell is somewhat scary, I'm sure. But sometimes in the adult world you have to do what's right for you no matter what anyone else thinks. You don't want to talk to your parents because you think there will be a no. But you can't live your life making decisions based on what you think will happen. Sometimes you have to try for an outcome and make the world prove you wrong.
You never know until you try, don't give up on the idea that your parents could understand what you're going through enough to get you help.
Emotional disconnection is usually a sign of trauma. You get hurt emotionally, you pull back, and things can't affect you as much. You pull back long enough and you don't really feel much, which easily kills empathy.
That's my best first guess based on little information. It's something that, honestly, I'd see a therapist about.
At 14 I'm sure that's an intimidating prospect. I'm sure if you had someone you were willing to talk to this about you wouldn't be posting here, so I'm going to hazard a second guess that you're afraid someone would judge you if you confessed this in person.
You need to talk to someone. Feeling like there's something wrong, feeling like you're separate from the rest of the world, will wear on you with time. The longer you go without connection the harder it is to remember how to do it, or how it feels.
I would suggest talking to a school counselor. That's pretty much what they're there for, and if you talk to the right one you might find someone who can help you talk to your parents about it.
I doubt this is something you can figure out yourself at 14. If you stick it out and go it alone you might figure it out someday years down the line (think at least a decade), but if you can brave the honesty you might be able to get some help for yourself.
It can make a lot of difference.
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Thanks, I know what you're saying hear. I would see a therapist but I just don't think my mom would go for it. To her I probably seem like a normal kid.. I think I do need to see someone not only about this but other things as well. I don't think think I can muster enough courage to go up to my mom and say "I need to see a therapist". For one I don't think she would and if she does I don't want to be a daughter like that one that isn't well in a way.. I don't want to disappoint her.
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