My name's Erica, I'm 16 years old. I may seem young but I've experienced a lot more than you'd think. I joined this site because my family and friends always end up coming to me for help on various subjects, whether its just be help on homework or help on relationships I always seem to know exactly what to say or do, and they always end up thanking me graciously. I hope everyone here has a question to ask me, and I'd be really glad to help anyone out who needs it!
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Ok, so the first question is easy really. Though it's something I've kinda worried about for a while about myself. To put it simply, I prefer to be friends with girls, perhaps date them, over sleeping with them. I'd rather stay in for a movie and cuddle than have sex. Does that make me weird, for a straight guy? None of my guy friends see what I like about it. (But my female friends tend to love it haha)
My main part to the question is, I see this aspect of me ruining future relationships. I tend to have a couple of female friends at all times, who I often spend an evening with alone. We might go out together, or watch a movie, or whatever. Nothing happens, we're just friends. At the moment I'm single. I worry though that when I have a girlfriend, she'll be always jealous of the fact that i'm alone with other girls (Because I thought about it, and I don't want to stop haning out with friends the way I do because some girl doesn't want me too). I do think that this will make it incredibly hard for me to start a relationship. When the trust isn't built yet, how do you persuade her there's nothing going on?
Any help would be appreciated, but don't insult me, I get enough of that already. (link)
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You're not weird for liking to watch movies and cuddle instead of having sex. It just makes you different from the normal horny guys out there. Which is good in the girl world. As for having a lot of girl friends rather than guy friends that you like to hang out with, good for you. It's good to have a variety of boys and girls around and you're probably more sensitive and used to girls feelings, which will make your future relationships a little easier.
However, a girls trust is hard to gain, and when you're with these other girls alone, you're right, it will be difficult for a girlfriend to understand. But compared to other guys you could probably understand why a girl would get worried by you being the only boy alone in a group full of girls.
Upon getting a new girlfriend, make sure to gain a strong connection with her right at the start, where you can be completely open with her about everything that ever goes on, and make sure she's well aware of your close girl friends. Make sure that she knows they're just friends, and if she wasn't involved in your group of friends to begin with, introduce her to your other girl friends so she realizes there's nothing going on. Maybe they'll even get along well and you can all hang out together, but when you're all not together you and your girl can be alone or you can hang out with your girl friends with out her. A girl is more likely to trust you with another girl she trusts, than just some random girl she barely knows.
Good luck with the ladies, hope this helped!
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I have thought of this, making my girlfriend be friends with my friends, I suppose it probably is the best way to sort it out. Thanks.
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