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I AM 23 YEARS OLD. MANY PEOPLE COME TO ME FOR ADVICE. I GUESS U CAN SAY I AM WELL TRUSTED.

I AM IN NO WAY SHAPE OR FORM "PERFECT"... TRUST, WE ALL MAKE MISTAKES BUT I BELIEVE EVERYTHING IS FIXABLE.

I DON'T BELIEVE THERE IS A SUCH THING AS A STUPID QUESTION, BUT...

YOU GIVE ME BULLSHIT, I WILL THROW IT BACK AT YOU.

IF YOU HAVE GENUINE CONCERN, YOU WILL GET AN HONEST AND WELL THOUGHT ANSWER.

IT DOESNT GET ANY REALER THAN THIS!!

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Hi.

I live with my boyfriend, and his mom. His sister had her son about a year ago, and we have a problem. He is all in all a good, healthy little boy who loves to have fun, but he also loves being picked up. If you hold him, and you try to put him down, he cries. If you put him in his play pen and leave him there, he screams at the top of his lungs.

It's been becoming a problem because he's almost 1 (he'll be 1 in like, a week) and he's bigger than most babies his age, and he's a lot heavier than them. It's difficult to carry him for long periods of time, and since my boyfriend's mom watches him while his mom is at work, she's become very exhausted. I would help out, but my boyfriend and I work a lot so we're not always home, and by time we do get home, we're worn out.

How can we wean the baby off of wanting to be carried? I love him, and hate seeing him cry, as does everyone else, but he's becoming too spoiled and too dependent on it and we're all very exhausted. I know we're very much at fault, but we're at our wits end. Any ideas?

Thank you!

I Have 2 CHILDREN. One girl 5 years old and one boy 3. BOTH BEYOND YOUR NEPHEWS AGE. I KNOW YOU BELIEVE THAT HIM BEING ALMOST 1 YEAR OLD MAKES HIM A "BIG BOY" IN CERTAIN WAYS, BUT THE TRUTH OF THE MATTER IS HE IS STILL A BABY. HE NEEDS TO BE HELD AND CUDDLED, SO WHEN HE ASKS FOR IT GIVE IT TO HIM. THEY ONLY STAY SO INNOCENT, NEEDY AND LOVABLE FOR SO LONG, SO TAKE ADVANTAGE!! :) MY KIDS WERE THE MOST SPOILED INFANTS AND I TOO STRUGGLED WITH TANTRUMS WHEN PUTTING THEM DOWN, BUT EVENTUALLY THEY GROW OUT OF IT. THEY BECOME DISTRACTED BY FUN TOYS OR TV AND WHAT NOT AND THEY CAN TOTALLY FORGET ABOUT YOU. I REMEMBER PRAYING FOR MY SON TO LET ME PUT HIM DOWN AND NOW HE IS 3 AND HE IS SO BUSY I HAVE TO LITTERALLY BUGG HIM FOR A KISS. MY 5 YEAR OLD TELLS ME SHE NEEDS "ME TIME', LOL. ALL IM SAYING IS TAKE ADVANTAGE OF HIS NEEDINESS NOW BECAUSE IT IS PRECIOUS AND DOESNT LAST FOREVER.

AND IF YOU MUST PUT HIM DOWN, TO USE THE BATHROOM, OR SHOWER OR COOK, ETC, PUT ON TELEVISION OR MUSIC OR GIVE HIM A VERY FLASHY TOY. IF HE STILL SCREAMS, GIVE HIM A KISS, WALK AWAY AND HANDLE YOUR BUSINESS. HE WILL LEARN, EASIER SAID THAN DONE, BUT HE WILL.

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(Rating: 2) We already give him fun toys and plop him down in front of the television. It doesn't work.
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