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Well to make a long story short, my boyfriend of 2.5 years had these group of girls that he was all best friends with BEFORE we were together. I've always hated these girls because they're stereotypical, well to put it nicely, home-wrecking sluts. Well, when we very first started dating, he broke up with me after 3 weeks because I didn't like him talking to them still, and he knew I hated them. The night he broke up with me he hung out with all of them, and they posted pics of him and them on facebook, with the girls all over him. I later found out he lost his virginity to one of them, like a year before us getting together. 3 months after this we got back together, and have been on and off since. My question is, how do I get over this situation? I know I'm better than these girls in more ways than one, so jealousy isn't the answer. I just really can't get past the crap that happened, and I know I really can't be mad for stuff that happened before we were even talking, so don't bash me for that. I really just need some advice on how to put this crap behind me? It's really tearing us apart.

Thank you.

sometimes you shouldn't let other people get in the way of things, but everyone is the same; we all get slightly jealous, some more than others. don't worry about it, I have been through a similar situation (there was only 1 girl not a group) and I feel like I have overcome it. you need reassurance from your boyfriend. you need to know exactly how he feels about you and how he feels about them. once it's in your head, it's going to be pretty hard to get it out. I hate to say it but sometimes things like this can't be resolved. it's not your fault, it's the whole situation. the best thing to do is to completely ignore those girls, and pretend to your boyfriend that it doesn't bother you... eventually you'll believe it yourself that you aren't bothered by it.

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