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22/f

Okay, due to my past, my heart has literally turned black. I don't trust guys and it find it very hard to even maintain a conversation with them. Like they'll ask to meet with me (because honestly the guys that try to talk to me are from like Mocospace and chatlines or whatever and yes I know they are bad places or whatever), but then I shut down and never talk to them again.

I will not lie, I am a BBW (or in layman terms, "Obese") and on the account of my low-self esteem, I have been talken to and used for sex numerous times, to the point where I don't even want to have sex anymore. I get turned off by the idea of having sex with a man and kinda would rather want to do it with a female... that's how severe it has been.

Why is it that I shut down when it comes to guys now? I tell them the truth about myself as far as my looks are concerned but I still stop talking to them....

There is another guy that I have known for a year who adores me, and I admit that I have slept with him before and then I shut down on him to. After it happened I stopped talking to him. Then he found me again and is trying so hard for me to date him, but to be honest, I am not really attracted to him and he is a little cocky for me...

I don't know what to do. I am at a complete loss. What can I do? Where can I meet guys? I am in college but attend a large college so talking to guys is scary especially if your are new to campus.

I know have a lot of good qualities about me... but I think guys can't get past my exterior... so Idk... any advice will be greatly appreciated...

How can I stop shutting down on guys and where can I meet decent guys that will likely accept me for me?

First of all, you have to accept and love yourself just the way you are. It all starts from there and I believe this is the center of your problems. You have to embrace and love the good qualities that you have as a person and as a woman. You have to believe and know that you deserve better treatment than what you're getting. If you believe you're not good enough, you will be putting yourself at the mercy of any man. You will allow them to treat you as they please. As far as shutting down to men, it is clear that you distrust them but you also have to give yourself a chance. You have just given up on yourself and on men. The best thing would be to change that and you have the power too. You are aware that there's a man in your life that adores you. He love's you and sees the beautiful in you. You just have to learn to accept him with his flaws and give him a chance. Nobody is perfect, and life wouldn't be meaningful and gorgeous if it was perfect. :)

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