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Last Update: June 20, 2010
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Alright, I had this past "fling" I guess you could call it. It was but it wasn't because we never talked face to face. I initiated everything, I wrote the notes first, I made the phone calls first, I set up the time and place we could talk but every time, he was to nervous to talk. In his note he expressed everything, I actually still have his note that's how near and dear to my heart it is. He said in it that he likes me so much and he never felt this way about a girl before. That I'm his only one, that every time he wanted to talk to me he couldn't because he would get this knot in his stomach. We cared about each other a lot, I know you're probably laughing reading this seeming as it isn't a real relationship if he couldn't talk to me. I wouldn't talk to him because I initiated everything, I couldn't do it all, ya know, he needed to step up. My friend was a mediator I guess you could say. They talked on the phone pretty much all the time and they would always talk about me. He said he can't get me off of his mind, that he's going to talk to me soon. He's a singer for my church and one time we had battle of the bands, I looked him dead in the eyes when he was singing and he messed up and had to start all over again. Now, I explained that it's time to get to my point. We are over each other, of course we're always going to have that care for each other but he now has a girlfriend. My question is, why was it so easy for him to ask out his current girlfriend when he couldn't even talk to me? (link)
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You seem like a nice young lady which makes his observation more difficult. Your friend at church is more likely just going through motions of just being with a girl period. He was not accustomed, or so it seems, to talking to girl at all, le along in a sort of disconnected way. This new girl likely peirced his interest enough for him to ge over his fear of talking to girls. Don' read too much into it. It will take a while for even him to know what he wants to the degree that he can explain it to you or anyone else. So if you really like this young man, be patient, your opportunity will come to at least talk to him on a sound level. Don't emarrass him because that will only make him shut down. Just wait and I promise you that something will happen to place you in a position to talk. Trust me on that.
If you need MOOR advice, let me know.
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