Member Since: June 15, 2010
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16/f
3 weeks ago my boyfriend of eight months broke up with me and its not the getting over him part thats hard but i gave him something that i never gave a guy before and no not sex but other things and things were bad the week he broke up with me but the last time that we hung out we did stuff and then 4 days later he broke up with me. and there are many reasons of why we broke up but it was because of his parents. he said he needed time before we went to being friends and idk why?
i have no clue what he wants out of me, should i leave him alone so he can miss me or should i try to be friends with him?
to be honest i think he is messed up right now. he cant explain everything and just when i exposed him he said he had to go and he ran away. i know he is hiding something but im not sure.
i guess im looking for a guy to answer or a girl. doesnt matter, thanks. (link)
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First off, I am very sorry, breakups are never easy.
If he says that he needs time before he can be friends, then, at least in my experience, it is best to give it to him. It is difficult to change the nature of a relationship over night. Over time we develop patterns of behavior, in a romantic relationship we develop patterns of intimacy that are not really appropriate (or healthy) at a friendship level. Sometimes the best way to be able to establish a friendship is to take a break and then, once expectations of behavior have been lost, reconnect.
If he is confused, he may just need some time to sort out how he is feeling. Regardless your best approach at this time is to take a step back and focus on healing yourself. Do what it takes to make you happy now. That way in you can begin your next relationship (or a renewed one with your ex) in a healthy fashion.
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