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19/f
I have been dating my boyfriend for about 11 months now and I am so in love with him. We are very serious and I see an amazing future with him - but theres just one problem.
I's not that big of a deal but he has a little bit of a wandering eye. While I know he would never cheat on me, he constantly tells me which girls he thinks are "total babes" and which celebrities he would love to get with. I know this is normal, but it makes me uncomfortable and insecure. When we go to the beach, he stares at other women. Just the other day he took one of my lingerie catalogs and was drooling over the girls while I was sitting right next to him. When I get mad or upset about it he just laughs or blows me off.
And it's started to make me feel like I'm not enough, and that's why he looks elsewhere. I used to be very confident and outgoing but now I feel like if I were just skinnier or had bigger breasts that maybe I could keep his attention. Now I feel uncomfortable having him see me naked and he complains all the time. He gets frustrated because I won't stay naked after sex or strip for him.
I tried explaining to him why I've gotten so insecure and how him gawking at other girls bothers me but he laughed it off or changed the subject. It's embarassing, I don't know how else to go about it.
I realize he is portrayed in a negative light in this question but he really is amazingly sweet, caring, funny and and all-around great boyfriend. I know he's in love with me and I want to be with him but hate feeling this way. How can I solve this issue?
Thanks for all who reply.
He may be a great guy but he have a problem. It's really normal how you feel and if I was with a guy who goes banana over every pretty face I to would feel somewhat insecure.
And seriously you have to question yourself... Can I continue to feel like this forever? What if we get really exclusive like engagement or even marriage? Will his behavior continue? Will his behavior ever heighten and he go as far as to cheat? We can never say what a person will do... Hell we never no sometimes what we will do in the future... Or even what type of person we will become!!!!!!
All I'm saying is his inappropriate behavior needs to stop. He's making you feel insecure, and it's hurting you. So you need to put your foot down! You need to make it crystal clear that his behavior is disrespectful and it's making you feel less than the beautiful person you are. And if he loves you like you loves him than... he will make a drastic change... A man in love will do anything in his power to ensure that his women is happy...
And for your sake I hope his loves matches yours and he will change. But if not than you need to seriously consider moving on. You can't keep on going threw life feeling this way. In the future when you grow older your body changes, black hair starts to gray a bit. When you have kids you tend to out on a few extra pounds. Are bodies experience a lot of drastic changes in life. So we need someone who will live us inside as well as out. Unconditional love to be exact... And if we can't get it we move on... And since you found a man that you love so much an he seems to be such a great guy I hope things for you two gets better :)
- The best of luck to you and always-
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