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Alright... here's the deal. I am an 18 year old girl who just had her last day of high school. I am going to college in the fall. I have a major issue...a problem with myself i guess you could say.
My mother is so completely outgoing and talkative while my father is very quiet and often too nice. Being their daughter I am a little like both, but I am much more like my father. And I hate it.
I have moments, mostly when I am out of school on the street or at random parties where I am very outgoing and talk to people and make great first impressions. Certain people at school that know me think I am so outgoing and open and out there. So I know I have that in me, I just don't know why it hides more than it comes out.
I cannot for the life of me be outgoing/fun/crazy or whatever in large groups of people. I am always the one that is quiet or reserved. I hate it! It causes me to not make as many friends in school and I am worried that this will affect my career life in the future, because being social and being able to talk to people is so important. I dont know what to do. I've read a lot of tips on how to be outgoing and they all say you need to have confidence but the odd thing is, I DO have confidence. I have enough confidence to know that I am very beautiful and smart and I can be very funny but for some reason those traits dont always come out. In large groups I just get lost and dont really know what to say... When a lot of people are talking I always find it hard to interrupt and enter the conversation. And sometimes when a lot of people talk to me at once I get very nervous...like when attention is all on me...and I say random things. But thats also weird, because I like attention on me I have modeled on runways and modeled and done a lot of things of that fashion. But when it comes to public speaking I just cant! How can I improve in that? I am going to college next year and I want to make a lot of friends and be outgoing and finally break this odd shell i find myself in... i have a lot to offer the world! (link)
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wow i feel like we are the same person.
not really sure what to tell you because if i did then i wouldnt be having this problem myself.
i can definatly tell you that since your going to college, getting drunk is always a way to break out of your shell.
but if your not in to that (as i am not either) i cant also suggest that in college youl be with all new people. poeple who dont know that yuor shy and quiet. so use this oportunity to be a whole new person. forget about the shy quiet girl, and just start over.
goodluck, hope i helped
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