Name is Megan, I'm 20 years old. I've gone through a lot in my life, and got through so much on my own. It sucked, and I wish I had someone to go to for advice. I like to help others who are in need of advice. I don't think anyone should ever feel alone. I hope to help some of you with the answer's I've giving. I try my hardest.
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okay .. i'm 16/f, and my best friend is 16/m.
we met months ago and hit it off and gradually became closer; we are best friends, we love to hang out, talk, we're the first person each other texts, we love to hang out in groups together, and we basically can't get enough and i go to him for anything and vice versa. keep in mind -- this is still strictly friendship, we harmlessly flirt, it's no big deal, this is just how we were.
last night we went to a party type thing. we got dared to kiss, and him being my best friend, we were just like alright no big deal. so we kissed for 5 seconds.. and ever since, i just kept thinking about it. i didn't think anything of it for the next day or anything, we hung out and i didnt feel anything different, no emotional feelings attached, same with him..
but we were texting and talked about last night, and at first it was harmless again no emotional feelings attached, and then it got more intense.. mentioned how we could simply do it again and it wouldn't be a big deal, like on a dare again or something. suddenly my stomach began to get butterflies in them after an hour of texting.. i did NOT know where they came from.. it's been so long since i felt that, and now i'm utterly TERRIFIED of liking him. because i can not not not let our friendship go to waste.
ever since the butterflies - which began about half hour ago, currently still texting him - ive been sweating slightly and nervous, and i dont feel the same talking to him now.. i dont feel like we're just best friends, i feel the butterflies now and i feel like he's a different person..
what do i do, i can't let this friendship go to waste, i can't let things be any different.. i NEVER thought i'd feel this way. maybe i just need to sleep on it, but just in case things don't change, here i am...
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Honestly, there isn't anything you can do to stop the feelings. Feelings are feelings, and they will happen whenever the moment is right.
I understand not wanting to ruin a friendship, but it seems like you both have a really good friendship going. That's usually how some couples meet. Being best friends at first, and then getting emotions for one another happens.
The only way to actually stop these feelings is to stop talking to him, but I know you probably don't want to do that. I don't think your friendship would go to waste. Maybe talk to him about it. You said you both can talk to each other about anything. He brought up the kiss to you first, so obviously he's in the same boat.
Maybe you both will end up having a good life together. :)
Or maybe it would be simple nothing and you two be best friends forever. You never know where life is going to take you, but don't sit back and think "what if" Because then you'll have that feeling in your stomach actually wondering "what if".
Good luck to you!
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thats true, feelings are feelings, i guess you cant do much about them.. i'm currently talking to him about it now & we seem to have things cleared up for the most part, thank you & very true, who knows how it could end up if i keep asking what if?
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