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15/f

Me and my boyfriend have been going out for 5 months. It was completely fine. But I did end up liking another guy. I didn't let that get to me because I know that happens sometimes and I'd rather be with my bf. He is the best to me and actually cares.

But one of my friends, who is one of his friends is really close with me. We talk all the time. He tells me what a horrible boyfriend I have because he doesn't talk to me as much as he did before and that he treats me better than my own boyfriend. Honestly, he is a good friend and all, but its killing me because in a way the things he says is true but I don't want to leave him.

Recently I found out my boyfriend likes another girl too. My friend that I talk to all the time told me. I listened in on the conversation, so it's not like he's lying about it. But I know he doesn't want to get with that girl and he wants to stay with me. I didn't let it get to me since I like another guy. But I started thinking about it and now I kinda feel really hurt. I've been doubting us for a long time and I guess I just tell myself he doesn't care for me anymore because there is someone else.

My friend told me I should break up with him. I'm moving in the summer so it's gonna happen eventually but I don't want to. I really care about him and he swears he loves me. He really proved himself but now I'm so confused.
Maybe I should talk to him?
I would but I'm not even supposed to know he likes another girl.

Please help, thanks!

Hi :)

It is true, sometimes you can be attracted to other people while being in a relationship. Sometimes it's just an infatuation that happens once in a while, but doesn't really mean anything. And on other occasions, you probably are better off getting with that other person. You say that you're moving away for the summer, so you and him will eventually break up. If that's the case, why would you get with the other guy? Won't he be living in the same area as your bf?

I say, if both you and your boyfriend would rather part ways and meet new people, go ahead! Communication is the key. He's probably asking himself the same things you're asking yourself, but is afraid you'll over react or get upset. I think you should talk to your boyfriend about the situation with the other girl he likes, and see where that leads you. If he asks why you are asking, tell him the truth about liking another guy, but not enough to throw away your relationship. You never know what can come out of this. Even though you don't want to let him know you found out, just be honest.

If you guys work it out, and ddecide to stay together. It's okay if you two are mature enough to handle a long distance relationship. I'm no one to judge how mature you are, but I feel that since you're only 15 and you're moving somewhere new, you will find new friends and possibly new lovers. You have a looooong life ahead of you, and you will know when you find the right person. Sometimes it's after the obstacles of confusion, but I think you two should work it out, and see what happens. If you want to be single and do whatever you want, then don't be afraid to make that decision. Good luck!!

Uniq :)

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(Rating: 5) thanks so much
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