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okay, so i don't know how to start this off but im 18 and a female. I'm very close with my mom and not so close with my dad. Growing up he was always like into politics, and always not home and out and about doing whatever he wants. He couldnt drink because he had diabetes and he was overweight and what not. i have an older brother and sister who are in their 30s and my dad was really close with my brother. but now that the both of them have moved out and have families hes never home to be wiht me. So as you can see like i never really have had a bond with my dad..like i dont talk to him about anything, fill him in with my life because hes never home. So recently maybe 4 months ago? he got the bipass suergy i think thats what its called to make him skinny or whatever? so since this he doesnt have diabetes anymore. the first like two months were good and for the past two months hes been drinking alllll the time. like its getting annoying because how could it not? my mom has been getting into fihgts with him and tells him that she thinks hes drinking too much but he just thinks shes wrong and says that "we don't understand him" he comes home around 3 or 4 all the time. he works, comes home at 6 eats goes out at maybe 7 and then comes home at 3 or 3. but anyway this week it just got so bad that he comes home and wakes us up during a school night and i was up till 3 ro 5 in the morning listening to him. last night sussobly he got a flat tire, and he kept calling and calling and calling the phone at 2 in the morning, like obviously we are not going to pick it up because its him probably being drunk. anyway i dont know like how anyone could help me? im too afraid to talk to my dad because weve never had a bond or anything and my mom tires sometimes but he always flips out at her. my brother needs to have like have a few drinks in him to even say anything like that to my dad and my sister just doesnt think anything of it. i dont know how to like help it because i want him to stop drinking and like be a real dad to me, i also dont want my parents to split up because my mom said to me earlier today that shes really close on saying "either you choose your family or your alochol" and she said something for him not coming back. and i dont want that. idk if anyone could help? maybe if anyone has been in this position before? or knows someone or anything. thanks sorry that this is so long too
i understand your problem and im feeling bad for you, th eonly thing that you can do here is talk with your dad about all of this and if he doesnt understand just try to tell your mom to cut him some space , maybe he need like lots of time to think about all this, im sure that at the end he is going to realize that what hes doing it wrong and he have an aweosome family like urs ..
i understand that you are wooried ,,you guys can get him in like rehab or something
but if you need someone to talk to , go to my columm and you will find my email adress and tell me hows you are feeling about that because i only want to help you rigth now
good luck
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thank you so much
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