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Last Update: February 1, 2010
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17/f
ugh parents... i know they aren't bad and that i should be thankful to have them. but sometimes they are soooo annoying!!!!!
my parents are difficult and stubborn. if i tell them something, they'll just say their opinion
example- i tell my mom i'm having boy issues. i have a boyfriend but like another guy at the same time. she will just tell me her opinion. she'll say "what?? oh no dont be like those girls. dont be a boy hopper who goes from guy to guy. you need to focus on school" gahhhh and all i was asking for is for her to make me feel better and figure out what to do. but instead, she just made me feel bad about myself and made everything worse and mad at her.
another example- I got a B in my math class (trigonometry) and i know i could have done better.. but when i told my parents they immediately freaked and was like- "ohh thats not good.. you need to maintain your good GPA so you can get into college.. i think you may have dropped to the B honor roll.. you need to stay on the A honor roll.." gahhh and its like- i studied for this math final for like 7 hours and i tried soo hard to get a good grade in this, and they dont appreciate how hard i'm trying..
another example- my dad is a volleyball coach at the same club that i play at (he coaches a different team, thank the lord. id go nuts if he coached my team) and so i will skip a setters practice because i have to study for school because i'll have finals.. and he'll get mad and tell me to go to the practice for a little while.. but he doesnt understand that i'm 17, he cant really control me anymore. i have a mind of my own... ugh its so frustrating..
i think this is my main problem with my parents- i feel like i can't tell them anything because I know that if i do tell them something, they'll make me feel bad about it. how do i fix this?? i cant just talk to them about it because if i do.. again... they'll make me feel bad about it and they're very stubborn and just give me their opinion... in this case their opinion would be- "what?! what do you mean you cant tell us anything?? you should be able to tell us anything!! how can you not trust your own parents.." blah blah blah..
so how can i fix this dilemma?? (link)
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Oh I feel like we might have the same parents, because this is exactly what I go through. Nothing ever seems to be good enough, and theres always something else I could've or should've done. Believe me, I understand.
But after my senior year in high school, and freshman year in college, I got into a decent amount of trouble, and it took me a bit to realize that If i had followed their advice, I wouldn't be in the problem at all. As much as I hate to admit it, they have been around and they do know a few things. While it may be incredibly annoying, and asking them for advice is just asking for myself to get mad and annoyed, I have started to listen to them, and it has already saved me on some occassions.
Also understand they grew up under completely different circumstances, and realize that the advice they give me may have been good for "back then", but it wouldn't really apply to current situations. But overall, try giving them a listen, and instead of completely writing off their ideas, reconsider them, even if it just a little.
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