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Q: 17 f
im sorry if its a little long its a long story but i would apreciate it if u guys read the whole thing. ok so about a month ago i met a really cute 20 yea old guy. he asked me to hang out alot of times but i wasnt able to. this saturday night i was able to and we met up at his house. i asked my sister (whose 20 yrs old also) to take me. so she took me and i was at his house just talking we did makeout like once and by the time i got home i was already totally hooked on this guy. he seemed like a good guy. so sunday rolled around and he asked me to hang out and i brought my sister and cousins. we went bowling then to a cafe. i was really nervous and never spoke muh but i noticed him and my sister spoke alot and my ousin even told her that he might like her. in the end the date was horrible me and him barely spoke i got mad and didnt even bother speaking to him. when i got home i felt bad and called him he said it was ok and i thanked hm for paying for bowling and the dinner. so the next day (morning) my sister told me that she didnt trust him at all, he looked like a player and he had 80 something unread messages on his phone. he was also really paranoid about it and didnt want anyone seeing it. i found that weird and knew i couldnt trust. ok so monday my sister goes out says its with her friends and i stay home. i texted the guy (nate) and called him he didnt answer. my sister gets home with a hickey. i asked her where she got it from she said it was her ex. which they still talk and im pretty sure she still has feelings for him.(her ex).next day one of nates friends whose very nice called me and said did you know where your sister was last night? i asked her she said it wasnt what i was thinking. she said her and my cousin (whose 24) made a plan to see if they can trust him. she said he had texted her that night and asked her to hang out and she said she went to see how far he would go. and that she was only trying to protect me.she said to forgive her and that they went to watch a movie as friends and he invited her inside then tap kissed her and started giving her a hickey she said she got mad and left. and my older cousin (whose very protective of me) said not to tell me anything becuase they wanted to tell me together about nate. heres what i dont understand. that night she told me to lets make a plan but i said NO becuase i didnt want to find out atleast not now if he was a player. they went behind my back and did this trick yes offcourse im never talking to him again but what do i do about her? everytime i look at her i see them making out. thats not right she knew how much i liked him.i knew he couldnt be trusted and yes it hurts becuase i really liked him but i am more hurt becuase of my sister. she said she was only trying to protect her and to forgive her she didnt mean for it to go that far but once he was so close she couldnt stop. she admitted to being wrong and asked for forgiveness. i cant. i dont find it in my heart right now to forgiv her i feel betryaed, eventhough she said she was trying to help me. i was sos tupid i was the one trying to help me get rid of that hickey so my parents dont see it. i have t admitt when she got home she started crying, and was paranoid. i dotn know why she did this she was my best friend and was always there for me. i didnt want to know if he was a player atelast not now, and not this way. i cant stop crying all i can think about is them making out. and her hickey. this wasmonday night and that hickey is still there and she said it was like a 3 sec thing and she knew she was doing wrong and left. but she is a little dark skin that hickey wouldve nevr been that bad, if it was 3secs would it have? should i forgive her? i feel so desperate betrayed i spoke to my cousin she said that they were only trying to help me. i can get that image out o my head though. im crying as im typing this sorry i just needed to let it all out. please help? i spoke to my cousin she said that they were planning on telling me together on thursday, thats why my sister didnt say anything to me. i told my sis you couldve gone and made the plan but as soon as he was leaning in to kiss you you shouldve backed off. she keeps apologizing and saying everyone makes mistake. but she keeps saying shes not sorry for doing the plan becuase she didnt want me to be hurt in the end. well how does she think i feel now? its worse now becuase its her she meant everything to me. .

Have you told your sister how you feel. You have every right to be upset with your sister and that man. You need to first off tell Nate how you feel. Tell him he you had trusted him and thought he was a great guy. Tell him he is a player and you dont want to speak to him again. Stand up for your self. Then tell your sister and cousin both how mad you where that they went behind your back after you already told them you didnt want to them to do it. You cant be to mad at them for the fact he hit on your sister in front of you at the bowling alley. but your sister still shouldnt have gone out with him

Rating: 5

THANKS SO MUCH I TRIED TO TELL HER BUT THEY STILL WONT LISTEN. NATE IS A JERK IM STILL HURT and i dont know if ill get over it. but thanks for ur advice and for reading the whole thing. (btw sry for the caps it was a mistake.

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My name is Ashley. I am 22 years old. Ill be celebrating my 3rd 21st birthday June :) . I had my first child at 15. I got married at 18 and had another child shortly after. They have two different fathers. I am currently going threw a divorce. I moves states after we seperated ( ugly seperation) but I had no family in that state. I left everything except my beautiful babies and our clothes. I found a job up north and things are going good. I am dating. I have been in abusive situations. I am going to college for psychology and sociaology. Im here to listen help and give you advice ive been in alot of different situations and can relate to a lot.