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Q: Hey, ok well this is sort of extremley embarassing and I never thought Id find myself asking this question but here goes..
Im 16/f and I noticed with my previous boyfriend whenever he em fingered me it really hurt I thought it was just him at the time being rough so I said nothing and just pretended to enjoy it,afterwards I noticed specks of blood (by the way this was the first time id been fingered by a guy) the second time was ok but still a bit uncomfortable. Anyway me and that guy split a while back.Im now with a new guy nearly 3months in a few days. So tonight was the first night we kinda messed around and it was sore again when he fingered me and yet again the specks of blood. Now Im really freaked out because I know its me..whats wrong with me? its supposed to be enjoyable I dont want to have to pretend all the time and feel discomfort but god how awkward would it be bringing it up with him? I dont want to make him feel bad and Ive noo idea how to even say it oh like btw your sort of hurting me?
Im now so worried that when I decide I want to have sex it will really hurt..well I know it does the first time but you know after that this is really getting to me and I dont know what to do I feel so stupid for asking this question but I am worried..I want it to be fun for me to and not have to dread it the whole time..is it something that will pass and Il get used to or what?
Please someone help :(
itd be much aprciated thank you
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dont be scared about it. I had sex with a guy and i dont think he had "popped my cherry" and for a while everything my next boyfriend fingered me id bleed (never had sex with him ) so i dont know if it would have happened. he had blood on his fingers i was embarssed i said im not on my period and hes like i thought you werent a virgin imlike im not. so i dont know. its just you streching. nothing to be worried about it. its stop eventually.

Rating: 5

thanks reassured me a bit :)

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My name is Ashley. I am 22 years old. Ill be celebrating my 3rd 21st birthday June :) . I had my first child at 15. I got married at 18 and had another child shortly after. They have two different fathers. I am currently going threw a divorce. I moves states after we seperated ( ugly seperation) but I had no family in that state. I left everything except my beautiful babies and our clothes. I found a job up north and things are going good. I am dating. I have been in abusive situations. I am going to college for psychology and sociaology. Im here to listen help and give you advice ive been in alot of different situations and can relate to a lot.