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im 15 years old and in the 9th grade ive been best friend with this girl named rebecca, we've been best friends since 6th grade and we were pretty much inseperable! we hung out every chance we could, she's slowly starting to change though and now its like she doesnt even want to hangout with me anymore. everytime i ask her to hang out with me shes always like ''i cant im grounded'' or ''my moms being gay and wont let me do anything'' and then like 20 minutes later on myspace she'll post her status as hanging out with so and so! when she just told me she was grounded. why would she lie to me? i mean i understand shes going to have other friends but that doesnt mean she has to get rid of all of her old ones.i'd rather her tell me the truth then lie to me, if she doesnt want to hangout with me i'd rather her just tell me instead of her just making some lame excuse! i mean why would she tell me shes grounded and then post that on myspace when not only is she my friend on there but i was online too! im her only true friend and she treats me like dirt, she doesnt even talk to me at school she just walks past me and looks at me. she took me off her top and everytime i try taking to her shes really short with me expecially when shes with her other friends. i even bought her something for christmas i messaged her on myspace saying that i got her a gift and that if she wanted me to i would bring it by after my mom gets off. all she replied back with is i have a friend over and then she signed off! i still havent been able to give her gift, because she still has no time for me. i want to confront her about it but i have no idea what to say i dont want her to hate me because she is my best friend i just dont know what to do. i actually care about our friendship and is willing to do anything i can to fix it so any advice will help! (link)
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You need to talk to her about it. Try not to be too aggressive or emotional about it, if you can help it. One day when you can actually get in touch with her (or you could leave her a message on Myspace or something), just calmly let her know that it seems like she's been avoiding you and hanging out with other friends instead, and that it's really hurt your feelings because you've always considered her your best friend. Hopefully in talking to her, the two of you can work something out. But if she continues to act this way, you may just have to let her go and find a new best friend. Trust me, I know it sucks to lose a close friend, but sometimes it happens. Sometimes people change, and you deserve better than a "friend" who's going to blow you off and lie to you.
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Thanks! You really helped.
I will definately try taking your advice:)
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